if ‘female socialisation’ is a horrible, harmful thing for cis women and trans women, wouldn’t ‘male socialisation’ also be harmful for cis men and especially trans women? surely​ being indoctrinated into gender roles under the patriarchy is bad, even if those gender roles are telling you that you’re (expected to be) good and strong and powerful? because this socialisation is still hurting even cis men, they have problems dealing with emotions and anger issues into adulthood because it was never taught to them as kids.

like i honestly don’t get if TERFs are pro-socialisation or against. They make it very clear that ‘female socialisation’ is a harmful patriarchal system that harms ‘females’ from birth (including of course the trans men they’re​ misgendering). it’s described very clearly as trauma.

but trans women need to be demonised for undergoing the exact same thing? told we’re as bad as cis men when we’re​ actively trying to unlearn it? told we benefit from it, as if we’ve been built to be good little patriarchal servants, as if we haven’t had psychological scars from the process. u can’t imagine this socialisation is a good thing for us. u can’t imagine any trans girl wanted it.

so maybe…. stop attacking trans women as if we benefit from our childhoods. and if u really hate ‘female socialisation’, u should probably stand with trans people calling for gender neutral parenting, honestly.