Tag: acephobia

new rule if you say shit like ‘i don’t care about ace discourse either way’ and then do weird shit like, reblogging both positivity for ace people but also those “lol, look this ace said something cringey” posts, i unfollow you. i don’t like playing this guessing game of ‘yeah they just reblogged something gross from someone who thinks aces are fucking “invaders”, except they haven’t explicitly shared the same sentiment yet, so maybe they’re still ok to follow?”. or like, “sure it’s a punchline about aces being homophobic/transphobic/incels (fucking what?) but maybe they meant this person specifically and not as a group?” it’s a huge source of anxiety feeling like i’m just waiting for you to share the same sentiment.

i definitely Get You that Discourse Tumblr is a garbage fire and an endless source of anxiety and i do a lot to distance itself from it now. but like. if you don’t want to have a “discourse stance” then like… those cringey ace memes are a discourse stance. it means ace people who read your blog get to be subjected to this same guessing game

scorpiialpha:

anguam:

lydiafama:

romance isn’t dead it’s just very sleepy

I thought I recognized this art so i looked at op’s blog

idk if y’all remember this homophobic mess of a comic. Granted people can change but op’s more recent stuff reflects the same views.

hi! wow, you have a good memory, this was almost a year ago!

I think you might have misinterpreted the comic. the joke was how she, an ace person, could forget something as obvious and familiar to other people as sexual attraction! I thought her reaction was so funny I suggested making a daily comic about it.

Lyd is my girlfriend! We’re in love! Passionate lesbian love. For four years now! Since that comic we moved in together and we’ve started building savings for our life together! We talk online (Twitter, we don’t really use tumblr) about struggles we face, homophobia, lesbian history and representation, and the intersection of being gay with being ace, not ace, gender conforming, and gender non-conforming. That comic you’re saying is homophobic might look like it to someone without the context of our life, and maybe it did cause a sapphic woman to feel alienated due to her sexual attraction. I understand that because I’ve felt that way many times from the words of both lgbt and non-lgbt people alike. But it was an accident, and while that can’t take away the damage, I promise that Lyd’s comics showing our happy life together, our posts online, even our youtube channel all do infinitely more good for fellow sapphic women and other lgbt people than this comic did bad. Lyd apologized for the misunderstandings and lack of clarity.

Please stop holding other lgbt people to an impossibly high standard. We have so many enemies in this world, the last thing we need is to be attacking each other for the smallest infractions.

– Meg, a lesbian

(we went on vacation together last week! 🙂 )

Source: lakefama

asecualhand:

neonbaebae:

armiehammie:

@young aro/ace people: the excusionists you see online are not at pride. if they are, they’re coward keyboard warriors and they will not approach you at pride. everyone is welcome at pride, don’t let some asshole on the internet tell you otherwise

that’s bc exclus aren’t violent (unlike the terfs ppl love to compare us to) and taking the risk to directly confront and anger cishets, our damn oppressors? yeah some of us are scared of doing that for obvious reasons

What OP said: aros and aces

What you heard: cishets

toadstoolfuel:

mormonfries:

mormonfries:

mormonfries:

“asexuality is just SSRIs” is stupid half-baked tinfoil hat shit and just because a popular blog said it doesn’t mean it’s anywhere close to true

it’s literally the Woke version of ‘people are trans cause they eat soy’

for those of you who were lucky enough not to see this absolutely ass-lick discourse

there’s a lot of garbage to unpack here but i think my biggest confusion is like….. so what??? if ssris make ur life livable but ur not really interested in sex anymore and being part of the ace community brings u joy……. so fucking what???

like apart from the myriad of logical fallacies all clamoring for attention n this hell concept……. ur real, honest to god concern is………. “these teenagers don’t want to kill themselves but uhhhhh, they don’t really wanna have sex either,,,,,, and they’ve created a community that helps them accept themselves……… guys this is serious fucking business”

like that’s some nice suburban white mom “vaccines cause autism” bullshit, brenda, but most of us have real problems

it’s also such typical bullshit that they decide that sexualities are so static and permanent that they’re phrasing a change or realisation of sexuality as an illusion. like asexuality is a facade that must be distracting you from your One True Orientation.

sexuality can change. it happens to a lot of people. sometimes bc of your meds or hormones. sometimes bc of trauma. sometimes bc you’re just growing up and changing as a person, or because you have the vocab you didn’t have before. it’s such a weird version of identity politics that anything about you that’s temporary or that ever changes must be False, and also you’re a Faker.

also, they’re talking about libido anyway. because why should a community decide what it stands for, that’s other people’s jobs.

mormonfries:

mormonfries:

mormonfries:

“asexuality is just SSRIs” is stupid half-baked tinfoil hat shit and just because a popular blog said it doesn’t mean it’s anywhere close to true

it’s literally the Woke version of ‘people are trans cause they eat soy’

for those of you who were lucky enough not to see this absolutely ass-lick discourse