Tag: csa

hi ‘map positivity’ blogs run by minors are apparently ‘in my orbit’, thanks tumblr, so a) what the fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck and b) if this is because someone i follow or who follows me is following blogs like this, maybe, don’t, or block me. like. no matter your stance on ‘non offenders’ this blog was run by a 14 year old, clearly going through shit. like. no.

equisapien-rights-activist:

I feel like those “sexism/gendered expectations hurt men too” things would be a lot more effective if they didn’t just focus on internal issues guys being afraid to express their feelings or wear pink and acknowledged that, as not all men are equal in society, more external things like acts of violence that men experience at the hands of other men is often in part due to feelings about proving one’s masculinity. There have been multiple studies on how sexism is a gateway to white supremacy, for example and certain acts of racist violence when the target is a man can be an example of a man experiencing the negative effects of another man’s attempt to fulfill what he sees as gendered expectations (in addition to racism, because intersectionality and all). Homophobic violence against gay and bi men is perhaps a more obvious example of men suffering due to expectations of masculinity. Heck, if we’re going to expand this and include boys and not just men, the abuse some boys experience at the hands of the adult men in their life are acts of toxic masculinity. I think that’s why I get kind of a bad vibe when I see “feminist responses” stating that the ways that men are negatively impacted by gender expectations is their own fault, because I really don’t think some adult man dealing with trauma from his abusive father or who has faced homophobic or racist violence is really to blame for that on a personal level.

Edit: MRAs, get off of my post. This was meant to criticize a specific issue within certain sects of feminism and your irrelevant ramblings about your issues with “females” are not adding at all to the discussion I was trying to start.

toadstoolfuel:

toadstoolfuel:

the entire scene where they’re on the radio talking about “almost being molested” and kate jokes about all the gross adult men who were gross around her as a kid and tig goes like “no. that’s molested, not almost molested.” and they go back and forth and kate keeps trying to laugh it off and saying “that stuff happens to everyone” and tig keeps going “that’s like, not okay. at all.” like fucking god.that’s so good. so fresh. such peak women caring for each other culture. 

and then the next scene where tig opens up about her csa and kate is so shocked and horrified and she goes “that’s so much worse than the stuff i was talking about” and tig looks at her so calmy and kindly and says “it’s all bad.” 

i stg if u think ur ready to tackle media that covers csa, this is such a good, healing show to watch. tig notaro is a fucking hero

freifraufischer:

Okay, some fandom history, why show writers and authors say “for legal reasons” the can’t read fan fic.

Back in ancient times in the 1970s there was a show called Star Trek the Animated Series.  It was on the air as fandom culture around Star Trek was really taking route and there were many fanzines (things on actual paper that people bought) being published and the first conventions to attend.

David Gerrold was a writer for Star Trek the Animated Series who had also written one of the most famous episodes of the original series The Trouble with Tribbles.  While he was around the production office for STtAS he was introduced to a couple of fans who proceeded to tell him all about their ideas for an episode–essentially a sequel to his famous episode–which it so happens he had already written a script for.  When that episode aired he received a letter from one of those fans lawyers demanding “credit”.  It so happened that he could prove that the episode existed before the meeting but the involvement of lawyers and a threat to sue became widely known.

Marion Zimmer Bradly was, before recent horrifying revelations decades after her death, a titan of fantasy writing.  She also welcome fan fiction and published it in anthologies and in a magazine she published.  One day she opened a story sent to her and the plot of the story was essentially the plot of a a novel she had nearly finished writing.  More than a years worth of her work was now unpublishable because it was provable that she had read this story with this similar plot and she couldn’t prove the work on the novel existed before she saw the story.  She stopped publishing anthologies and fan fiction and in particular the MZB story is the one a lot of professional writers know as representative of the dangers of fan fiction.

So when a writer says they can’t read fan fiction for legal reasons it’s that their own lawyers are protecting them from outside lawsuits.

And this is why knowing your fandom history matters.

practicalityinpraxis:

bihets:

real, actual discourse from exclusionists right now: ‘children starting puberty shouldn’t be taught what a period is and any sex ed before the age of 15 is bad’

like….. how do they go around saying ace people all hate DIRTY ALLO SEX HAVERS and then pull this shit

“That cannot possibly be true,” I said to myself, unwilling to believe that they would stoop so low. “There’s no way that’s a real thing.”

It is indeed a true and real thing currently being said.

I know all REGs are the same, but sometimes I forget how prominent REGs are in every arena.

If your arguments for the protection of children’s health have been debunked a thousand times over by every medical, psychological and public safety group since the fifties, then you are full of shit and need to stop.

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sjwlenaoxton:

hi um just because something is a coping mechanism doesn’t make it healthy and the second that you share it in a public place (like the internet) it is no longer a “personal coping mechanism” you are now actively contributing to normalizing something bad like i have unhealthy cope ships too but you don’t see me posting incest harold