concept: i am the same person no matter where i am or who i’m with
Tag: bpd
me: (doesn’t directly tell anyone that i am struggling)
me: kinda interesting how nobody is ever there when i need them ://
DBT Steps for Increasing Positive Emotions
BUILD POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
Short Term:
- Do pleasant things that are possible now.
- Increase pleasant events that prompt positive emotions
- Do ONE THING each day from the Adult Pleasant Events Schedule – see Emotion Regulation Handout 8
Long Term:
- Make changes in your life so that positive events will occur more often.
- Build a “life worth living.”
- Work towards goals: ACCUMULATE POSITIVES
- Make a list of positive events you want
- List small steps towards goals
- Take the first step.
ATTEND TO RELATIONSHIPS
Repair old relationships
Reach out for new relationships
Work on current relationshipsAVOID AVOIDING
Avoid giving upBE MINDFUL OF POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
FOCUS your attention on positive events that happen
REFOCUS when your mind wanders to the negative
Be UNMINDFUL of worriesDISTRACT from:
Thinking about when the positive experience WILL END
Thinking about whether you DESERVE this positive experience
Thinking about how much more might be EXPECTED of you nowMore in-depth here: Paying Attention to Positives
maybe she’s born with it, maybe it’s a defense mechanism
ok google how to genuinely ask “have i done something wrong?” without bringing into it the baggage that comes with a personality disorder and a lifetime of anxiety
bpd, or as i call it bitch! please don’tleaveme
im hot
H ard to love
O bnoxious
T errible
I have a romanticised view point of being loved in ways Im not even sure exists and doubt actually exist
[id: a simpsons screencap of marge looking into a fridge full of cartons of egg nog. marge is labelled “me, choosing a terrible coping skill”, the various cartons are labelled “Binge drinking”, “Watching porn”, “Isolating myself for days”, “Gaming all day”, “Getting really fucking high”, “Browsing reddit for hours”, “Crying into a pillow”, “Not eating”]
whats with the “"you’re not really mentally ill unless you spend at least 3hr/day publically decrying yourself for the evil evil things you think about”“ crap like, my guy, calm the fuck down
@dromaeocore said: The best way to DEAL with intrusive thoughts like that IS to just… let them roll over you, try not to get yourself into a spiral of self-hate and self-destruction about it. ALL that does is reinforce them. /Not Giving The Thoughts Power/ is like, #1 treatment for Pure-O OCD, mine’s gotten SO much better as I’ve learned to do that. why the fuck do people encourage doing the literal exact opposite??
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy: “i can’t stop thinking about doing bad things” and “i’m not a bad person” are compatible concepts and the best way to deal with those thoughts is to accept that you have them and then move on.
tunglr dot hell: you’re not mentally ill unless you hate yourself for your bad thoughts, and if you disagree then you’re anti-recovery
Seen this mindset deployed a lot in a sort of implicit-unquestioned-basis way, and have some followers who could benefit from hearing this.
Your bad thoughts aren’t you. Some of us think and imagine some fucked up shit that would be really disturbing and heinous if we did them in real life. Some of us even reflexively feel positive emotions about it sometimes.
If you already decided those things are wrong and if you’re confident you’re not going to act on them, then it literally just makes things worse if you emotionally hurt yourself over the fact that you still experience those things.
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