ecreblog:

crixa:

clitemoji:

“mogai tumblr made it hard to figure out my gender/sexuality when first coming out”

consider: You don’t have to have a vendetta against queers with the “weird” genders and sexualities, especially teenagers, because you used to consider yourself one of them

also consider: the answer to “my identity was hard to figure out” is not to make it harder for other people. erasing other people’s identities will not make your own more visible. MOGAI people actually quite often find it helpful to have words for their identities, like yourself, and everyone else in the world

also consider: your anger is misdirected. heteronormativity hurt you several billion times more than the split attraction model ever could. No one who IDs as frostgender has the social capital to gaslight and coerce children from birth into a gender. straight and cis people are 100% to blame for the shame we’re made to feel for our identities and placing blame on young queers achieves nothing but furthering that shame. there is no good political goal that can be achieved by bullying mogais you nasty fucks

*Points a knife at you*
Consider: Very few people who don’t apply the split attraction model to themselves will say “no one should use this.” What we are saying is that in many cases it is used by SGA people to deny their sexualities and it is encouraged in MOGAI Tumblr land to identify as, say, a heteroromantic bisexual if you can’t see yourself living romantically with someone of the same gender but you can see yourself having sex with them. Rather than address possible internalised homophobia, y’all would have people conclude that that kind of attitude is always 100% healthy
Also consider: Speaking on personal bad experiences with identity labels is not “erasing” identities
Also consider: You can be angry about multiple things at once

Okay but just going to say that different romantic and sexual alignments are not some kind of internalized homophobia? Like yeah that COULD be involved but love and sex are not like. .. inherent to each other? You don’t need one for the other at all and your attractions there don’t always line up.

They’re two separate things you can’t control at all. You can’t control what gender(s) you love and you can’t control what gender (s) you’re sexually attracted to.

A lot of the time people are romantically attracted to who they’re sexually attracted to, but there are a lot of ways that gets changed up. Like you can be aromantic, but pansexual. Or biromantic but asexual. You can like women sexually but not romantically while simultaneously liking men romantically but not sexually.

It’s just what it is. It’s not a choice people make, it’s just what they feel. Sure, some situations can be internalized homophobia, but to say that’s such a pervasive aspect that it must always be questioned is denying validity to people who have different sexual and romantic desires.

crixa’s response is just straight up denying the hundreds of exclusionist blogs trying to claim SAM is nothing but homophobia and literally attacking people who use it for themselves

there is no war in ba sing se, right