“mogai tumblr made it hard to figure out my gender/sexuality when first coming out”
consider: You don’t have to have a vendetta against queers with the “weird” genders and sexualities, especially teenagers, because you used to consider yourself one of them
also consider: the answer to “my identity was hard to figure out” is not to make it harder for other people. erasing other people’s identities will not make your own more visible. MOGAI people actually quite often find it helpful to have words for their identities, like yourself, and everyone else in the world
also consider: your anger is misdirected. heteronormativity hurt you several billion times more than the split attraction model ever could. No one who IDs as frostgender has the social capital to gaslight and coerce children from birth into a gender. straight and cis people are 100% to blame for the shame we’re made to feel for our identities and placing blame on young queers achieves nothing but furthering that shame. there is no good political goal that can be achieved by bullying mogais you nasty fucks
anyways i was convinced that i was some fun variety of mixed up confusing terms when in reality i was so fucking self conscious i couldnt even fantasize abt other people being attracted to me. instead of, like, working on self image i just told myself i was lithosexual and ignored the very harmful effects that this had on my self image and self esteem.
and i’m really glad, it sounds like you’re in a much better place now! but from your tone and shit exclusionist blog I’m realising this was an attempt to disprove me? when you just said this was all the cause of your own low self esteem. it’s right there. so do you think lithosexuals are to blame for your self esteem issues, or do you want to read the post again until it clicks in?
Nope, it’s because instead of being able to healthily work through very natural feelings that would make a lot of sense, I was given reasons to ignore integral parts of my identity and problems in development. That’s the way I see it at least idk
so… you’re attacking identities because you used them as a harmful coping mechanism. and you’re idk, just pretending a-spec identities can never be helpful to anyone because they weren’t helpful for you?
not my business, just imho u should be working on this kind of resentment with a professional and not with a discourse blog
i told myself I was genderfluid for years before knowing I was a trans girl but somehow I resist the urge to attack that community? do you think I should? bc im damn sure they weren’t the reason I was hiding bits of myself in the first place. it sure wasn’t them keeping me in the closet to myself. there isn’t a mogai plot to give depression to closeted young queers, for fuck’s sake
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