“mogai tumblr made it hard to figure out my gender/sexuality when first coming out”
consider: You don’t have to have a vendetta against queers with the “weird” genders and sexualities, especially teenagers, because you used to consider yourself one of them
also consider: the answer to “my identity was hard to figure out” is not to make it harder for other people. erasing other people’s identities will not make your own more visible. MOGAI people actually quite often find it helpful to have words for their identities, like yourself, and everyone else in the world
also consider: your anger is misdirected. heteronormativity hurt you several billion times more than the split attraction model ever could. No one who IDs as frostgender has the social capital to gaslight and coerce children from birth into a gender. straight and cis people are 100% to blame for the shame we’re made to feel for our identities and placing blame on young queers achieves nothing but furthering that shame. there is no good political goal that can be achieved by bullying mogais you nasty fucks
I’m just frustrated because of how much these people set me back. Even now, I constantly doubt myself because “What if the only reason I feel this way is because I’m still confused?” Things would have been so much easier if I would have been properly taught the relations between gender and sex from the beginning instead of being fed the bullshit that this community fed me. Heteronormativity has not hurt me. This community has. I’m not trying to make it harder for anyone. In fact, I’m just trying to spread the truth so they don’t have to be so confused and frustrated for longer than they have to.
“Heteronormativity has not hurt me. This community has” thanks, anti-sjw and transmedicalist guy, count me enlightened. wait are you saying cishet culture has taught you better about sex and gender than ‘this community’ has?
Actually, no. It was a bunch of transgender people, believe it or not. Trans people who actually know what they’re talking about. But seriously. I didn’t even know the proper definition of transgender until I stepped out of the stupid bubble of that community and accepted facts. I’d suggest doing some research yourself :).
the definition of us being all mentally ill, thanks. Do you think, however, that definition serves people who dismiss us and want to fix the trans out of us, a lot more than it serves us, trans people? like i’m pretty cool where I am, and that’s not actively shooting myself in the foot, or letting cis people define me, thanks
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