autisticshepard:

Old cranky tired lesbian on the aro/ace spectrums here to say:

If you’re gonna pull that “heteroromantic asexual/aromantic heterosexual people don’t belong in LGBT+ spaces!!” bullshit, you can just walk on out. Unfollow me. Block me! Go ahead. I don’t care.

Or, you can stay a moment and listen.

I’m fine with people having more specific spaces. Lesbian spaces, trans spaces, bi spaces–ace spaces! All good. I am fine with, say, heteroromantic aces not being in lesbian-only spaces. (Are there lesbian-only spaces?)

But the general LGBT+ community? No. Hell no. You are ignoring over a century of history because you do not understand how someone else’s mind and heart works. Trust me when I say we are in this together. Trust me when I say that heteromantic aces and aro heterosexual people are not seen as straight by straight people.

“Straight” is a definition of exclusion. Full stop. The history of “overlap” between trans and queer people also includes overlap with asexuals. Going back literally decades.

I get that a lot of people on this site are teenagers and may not be aware of that stuff, so fine. Go read up on the history. Listen to people. Learn from people.

Stop the aphobia. Educate yourself. Stop trying to throw out people who’ve literally always been here.

And for fuck’s sake, stop using “the discourse” just please stop it’s not funny.