aces: literally talk about nothing but their sexual feelings in excruciating detail 24/7
also aces: how dare The Allos expect us to ever talk about what we want or don’t want from a relationship like normal human beings, don’t they understand that asking us to disclose our Ace Status is extremely stressful and therefore aphobic
Hey maybe don’t sexualize aces pretending we talk about our “sexual feelings in excruciating detail” all day, as a WoC I really don’t find it cute like it’s sexualizing and incredibly out of line and harmful and I don’t care how much you hate us just stop holy shit
And yeah as an ace I also refuse to act like a “normal human being” sure
Like when aces say comparable shit they get rightfully called out bc it’s shitty and harms a lot of oppressed groups, but then it frequently gets done to aces and frequently by the same ppl who’ll call aces out for comparable shit and suddenly it’s supposed to be okay?
Like this crap is really creepy and toxic and did I mention please stop
like i said in my tags this was about specific people who were literally saying this exact stuff elsewhere
you guys have literally built your movement around micro-identity labels that already include unnecessary details about your (lack of) sexual preferences. so yeah, “sexual feelings” in this case also includes “lack of sexual feelings” because either way that’s more information than anyone needs to know about someone else’s sex life (or lack thereof) that they’re not directly involved in. pointing that out =/= sexualizing anyone
also i’m sorry buddy but refusing to speak with a potential romantic partner about what kind of expectations you both have about your relationship (and, specifically, whether or not it includes sex) because it makes you uncomfortable is…. not normal behavior lmao. that’s what this post was referring to, not aceness in itself but i mean whatever
anyway this is all im gonna say about this so tbh just block me if it bothers you
Don’t say “aces” and then pretend aces don’t get to be upset about this sort of nasty generalization and sexualiztion. That crap does not just affect one specific person, and in your second paragraph u make it very clear again it’s about all of us. And yeah saying we talk about our “sexual feelings in excruciating detail 24/7″ is in fact sexualizing and not harmlessly pointing anything out
But okay good to know u don’t care and don’t care how it affects me as a WoC thanks for the racism/misogynoir it’s what I’ve come to expect from ppl who ate aces/aros lol have a good day
Eta: also bonus points for saying talking with anyone the person doesn’t have sex with/who’s not directly involved in their “sex life” about sex is TMI like that’s super sex-shaming and toxic but okay. Also my orientation is not a graphic detail about anything omg. wow. wow
As an allosexual person let me just say that WE ALSO talk about our sexual feelings frequently. I talk all the time about shit like “wow I’m so gay, I’m gay as hell for her” and guess what! That is me talking about my sexual attraction to someone! But if an ace does it, yucky, that’s TMI, they’re dirty and inappropriate, right?? Wrong. Stop oversexualizing aces.
^^^ What they said
As a person of color it really makes me uncomfortable that you’re oversexualizing my orientation and that you’re actually taking issue with people telling you not to.
Like, my existance is already either oversexualized or any sexuality is stripped from me, so maybe acknowledge that this is a shit post instead of coming up with a half-asses explanation as to how “it isn’t what it looks like!!” Because it’s exactly what it looks like.
they said aces talk about their orientation too much, and in too much detail. and then said that aces aren’t talking to their romantic partners about their orientations, which is bad. and then said this isn’t about aceness specifically, despite Only naming aces in the post
aces talk about sex too much AND too little. i think the problem is that you haven’t met an ace person in real life and you’re just getting your info from a movement trying to defame them tbh
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