i can’t believe people are honestly confused about what Straight privilege is and how it’s different from being just heterosexual/hetromantic

example. on one hand, we have het trans women. these are trans women that are attracted only to men. but the Straight trans woman is about 1000 times more rare. there’s an obscene set of standards that are required for a trans woman to get even a fraction of straight privilege to work:

• cis passing
• completely 100% gender conforming, but careful not to approach hyperfemininity or anything that would call extra scrutiny to her presentation
• almost certainly truscum. will have ‘only two genders’ memes up on her facebook
• has had bottom surgery, will look down on trans people who don’t want or can’t afford bottom surgery as fucking Deviants
• yes that’s right it’s quite likely that it’s completely impossible for a pre-op/non-op trans woman to have straight privilege because that shit evaporates the second anyone can connect you to even a hypothetical penis
• not a condition, but the mythical Straight trans woman will generally always hold the one massively outdated and misleading theory about transness being “an intersex condition of the brain”, that an accident of birth Literally put a female brain in the wrong body.
• we’re talking ‘50s sexism where Lady Brains are hardwired for nurturing, communicating and shopping. Any modern ideas on gender equality immediately disqualifies you from being the Acceptable trans woman
• we’re talking, the girl asking the guy out first being an unmentionable sin. the acceptably straight trans woman has to be completely fucking passive in anything involving sex and relationships
• disavowing anything related to being LGBTI or Queer, absolutely no pride in being trans
• the other trans women come under the T, but not the Straight trans woman. the T is for trans people who don’t want to be completely normal
• trans pride is for people who are being trans wrong. Trans is Suffering
• we’re talking about people so terrifyingly determined to be Straight and Completely fucking Normal that they’ve spent their life purging anything not completely gender-conformative about their presentation, and distancing themselves from actually being associated with trans people (this isn’t meant to be a judgement statement bc this is really all for personal safety)
• notice how i haven’t even mentioned sexuality yet
• but yes, the straight trans woman is completely straight
• Totally Vanilla straight. polyam is forbidden. even kink is suspect, because it could mark you as a deviant. the only acceptable kink is like, 50 Shades of Grey style shit where the Dude always Doms and even a blindfold is risqué
• I’m out of points but feel free to reblog this and add more Straightness conditions for trans women because all the terms and conditions are frankly astounding if we could count them all up

so. while the het-attracted trans women are capable of homophobia, it’s only the Straight trans women who are capable of benefiting from homophobia by virtue of being accepted into the class of Straights. these are the kind of people who can make homophobic jokes at work to make friends with straight co-workers. the kind of people who get high-fives after verbally abusing someone openly gay or trans. the kind of trans women who, (if white) gets promotions for looking like Everyone Else

and here’s an accompanying list of how to have Straight privilege as a nonbinary person:

• you literally can’t wtf
• straightness as a concept literally is incompatible with nonbinary identities
• It’s Adam and Eve not two gender neutral names
• when the fuck have you heard a third option in ‘”marriage is between a man and a woman”
• an AFAB nonbinary and a dude is a fundamentally non-straight couple
• an AMAB nonbinary and a woman is a non-straight couple
• an AMAB nonbinary and an AFAB nonbinary couple is, do i have to say it, not straight
• whatever they call their relationship, they’re the opposite of straight
• even if they’re completely cis passing
• i swear to god some of you people are trying to categorise Straight people as literally any couple with one peen and one vageen
• if you don’t know how to categorise sexual attraction without erasing someone’s gender identity then u should probably have a time out with all the other transphobes
• i can’t believe i have to tell you this because bi people have been saying this for literally decades but: having PIV sex isn’t the thing that magically bestows straight privilege upon someone. being straight is an identity and a position of privilege and nothing as simple as an action
• straight privilege doesn’t land on anyone who doesn’t identify strictly as straight, or as strictly a man or a woman
• literally how did we get this far that i need to write a refresher course on this. how did we let this become controversial

basically, remember Straight isn’t just the opposite of being gay. Straight is the opposite of being gay, lesbian, bi, pan, ply, trans, nonbinary, queer, ace, aro. Straight is the opposite of every marginalised gender/sexual identity. that’s why they’re marginalised, as in pushed to the margins in favour of Straightness as the default, the one identity allowed to be normal.