Hi y’all, in a fit of insomnia I quickly went through the ace humor/jokes tags to find a small sampling of the HUNDREDS of posts about asexuality meaning no sex and ace culture revolving around not having sex to prove a point in the discourse.
A lot of aces claim that asexuality has a definitive definition and that is “not experiencing sexual attraction” and not “not having/wanting sex,” so I thought I’d gather some evidence to the contrary straight from the horses’ mouth.
Feel free to use this blog as a reference every time an ace insists that asexuality isn’t sex shaming and isn’t about not having sex, lmao.
If we can accept that having sex with women is a part of lesbian culture even though one is not required to participate in, desire, or even enjoy sex with women to be a lesbian, we can recognize that not having sex is a part of ace culture even though asexuals can participate in, desire, and enjoy sex.
That asexuality describes orientation and not behavior and that many aces joke about and bond over a lack of sex are not contradictory. Don’t pretend they are.
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we can recognize that not having sex is a part of ace culture even though asexuals can participate in, desire, and enjoy sex.”
This ^
I don’t desire to have sex or a relationship because I am not attracted to people of any gender. If I was attracted to someone I probably would desire to have sex or a relationship.
My lack of interest in sex and relationships have an inherent connection to my asexuality but don’t define it. I am asexual because I am not attracted to anyone and I never have been attracted to anyone, not because of anything else.Â
Action is related to orientation in a lot of cases, but it doesn’t define it.
Straight women might desire to have sex and relationships with certain men because of their attraction to them. And they most likely wouldn’t desire to have sex or relationships with men (they’re not specifically attracted to) or with women (they’re not attracted to in general). But sex and relationships aren’t what make a person “straight”, it’s the attraction they experience (and don’t experience).
But attraction isn’t the only reason someone might choose to have sex. And a lack of attraction isn’t the only reason people would choose not to.
Celibate straight people and straight people who are virgins are still straight (because they still experience exclusive attraction to a gender other than their own), celibate gay or bi people are still gay or bi… and asexual people who have sex are still asexual (as they still experience a lack of attraction to people of any gender).
So really, OP, finding those posts isn’t proving anything. It’s just showing, as tuxedo-cut-man said before me, people who share an orientation joking about their experiences related to that orientation. They’re not giving a definition of it, or educating about what it means, they’re making jokes that people who share their orientation may (or may not) relate to.
Thanks for reading.
op is a troll
OP is not a troll. OP is sleepdontvisit (if you look at sleepdontvisit’s reblog you can see they mention in the tags that it’s their blog), a user whose blog is dedicated to them being critical of asexuality. From their blog they seem to genuinely believe what they are saying to be true and are not just saying it to get a rise from people.
holy shit are you serious?? how many blogs do they have??
that’s so gross, thanks for letting me know!
aaaaaaaand there it is
who’s surprised at this point?
jesus christ get a better hobby then making like thousands of discourse blogs???
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