theysbian:

lesbiancarlyrae:

Guys the reason all of us gay women are so stupid is like. We literally have no cultural touchstones. Like we have a meagre amount of books and movies and most of them aren’t realistic…all of our brick and mortar spaces-women’s bookstores, music festivals, bars specifically FOR women- are disappearing. Like we learn either by being taught (impossible because a ton of people don’t even know other wuh luh wuh where they live) or by imitating behaviour modelled by people around us (impossible because we have next to no spaces or media where that behaviour can be openly displayed). On top of that in the rare instance we DO get a gay romance it’s usually between thin conventionally attractive able bodied white women which like…describes the lived experiences of next to no one in the community and thus isn’t applicable to most people’s lives.

I thought I’d add, though, that if anyone sees the reference to disappearing physical spaces like music festivals and uses it as a springboard to mourn Michfest, you can fuck off. I’d rather have spaces like that stay dead than live while excluding trans lesbians, who are among the loneliest and most vulnerable lesbians there are. Support them unconditionally or gtfo.