femsaphique:

reversebirthdays:

femsaphique:

You all legit say shit like “aces abusing through forcefully withholding sex” or “aros deceiving you into loving them by being nice to you”..

Somehow you all managed to take all this info together and call inclusionists for incels. Instead of literally describing yourself as incels.

Like this is literally saying you’re involuntarily celibate and being friendzoned, and that people are entitled to having dates or sex with others.

You all don’t get to jokingly call others incels, when you all literally talking with such entitlement about others’ sexualities and dating life.

theyre all suddenly believing again in things like “friendzone” or “leading people on so now you owe them affection/sexual things” and i cant believe they dont realize that

I’d typically call this sort of stuff for regressive, or say it’s going full circle… But you know what this is?

It’s giving in to anti-feminist rhetoric, these people are literally saying the shit people say about women.

Only this time targeted at aromantic and asexual people, a group where if you look at a lot of surveys, also disproportionately seem to be made up of women too.

It’s frankly a mess, but I kind of wish people saw it as the mess it is… It’s a mess that normalises really shitty attitudes. People are saying things to aro/ace people, that they’d not say to many other groups.

And all of this shit is stuff I thought we were past, it was established within sj-circles years ago… But now we’re seeing it loosen up, thanks to how people on tumblr are normalising this bullshit, using the “correct wording” to get away with saying shit we have been rejecting for years.

It’s so surreal to me we haven’t gone away from this, when it’s clearly part of why we’ve been rejecting MRAs now for years. Because people are trying to gain autonomy over others’ bodies.

Now we’re suddenly bending views on guilt-tripping and consent, and how we talk of sex and romance, all to essentially regress to giving validity to the friendzone.