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binarized Socialization arguments are like universally terrible

i remember this one woman came into my inbox in response to a post i made, Instructing me that many of the trends i’d put out there about trans women’s childhoods were also applicable to gay men–that she thought i wasn’t aware of this, having had an eight year gay boy phase, is also p laughable–finishing it up with “SURELY you don’t believe gay men aren’t socialized as men?”

and like idk sis, if you’re suggesting that i don’t think gendered socialization can be neatly circumscribed by two oppositional and quasi-moral categories, yeah. you pretty much Got Me.

that and it’s super weird that people with these same subscriptions will be the first to argue that their womanhood is determined (sometimes solely) by their being gay and contoured to that experience and, like, that’s fair, but for some reason they seem incapable of extending that idea to any other gendered subjectivity. hmmmm