only people who identify as gnc are gnc….uwuwuwuwuwu

betterbemeta:

you know what? Yeah! Absolutely! Leave your uwus at the door

Because there isn’t one masculinity or femininity to measure up against.

Being autistic doesn’t mean that my expression or experience of gender doesn’t make me the peer of allistic people who share my gender.

Black womanhood doesn’t ‘conform’ to white womanhood but we don’t say all black women are gnc. We have decades of experience, growth, community building, dedicated to developing multiple expressions of gender that are not a “how much do you have in common with or look like Melania Trump” checklist.

It’s not about “you’re only something if you think you are in your imaagginnaatiioonnnn”– it’s about that it’s a horrific idea to say that the only true representative of somebody’s gender is the most privileged person. That if you’re not a straight, white, neurotypical, thin, reproductive femme cis woman, or a straight, white, neurotypical, fit, reproductive masc cis man, you’re somehow ‘not conforming’ to the image of those people. That you can’t ‘do’ gender as well as them. 

It gets into the idea that it is the “function” of any person with gender to be as much like those people as possible. And it implies that if you are ‘defective’ in that respect in any way and experience discrimination that is intersectional with gender for any reason, you’re in the same boat with nonbinary and trans people. Which cis people are not.

also like it’s,,, gender expression. it’s something u consciously relate to. it’s certainly not innate. unless ur argument is that u think people destined to be GNC are decided at birth, gender conformity & non-conformity is a personal opt-in process.

like. if you’re against idpol or into materialist analysis or something, u need to come up w a better framework than deciding gender must be unchanging and innate (especially day to day gender expression of all things like, do u hear yourself? it’s gender fucking conformity,, it’s very literally a choice?)