Hey just letting you know, f*g isn’t a slur you can reclaim if you’re not a gay man. idk if you identify as that or not, just because in your bio previously you had written ‘transbian’, which I think insinuates you’re female aligned

patrexes:

i 100% understand why you think that! however! slurs are complicated, identities are super complicated (and i don’t feel like spending three paragraphs detailing mine), and not only is fag a term that’s levelled pretty indiscriminately against queers as a general rule and especially towards transfeminine people, the differentiation between feminine gay men and trans girls is… really new. fag is both of ours. fairy is both of ours. molly and baeddel and argr are all both of ours. 

end-of is really, not everyone agrees that only gay men can say fag, but even if they did, my identity is messy and complicated and not necessarily perfectly in line with current discourse on gender/sexuality theory, the word is an important part of my identity, and i apologize for any discomfort that (or any of the various slurs i use) causes but my identity is not for you to police. 

also, here’s a pretty great post.

seeing people thinking fag isn’t thrown at trans women because it’s a slur for ‘male aligned people’ is always a fun reminder that non trans women and esp cis people just have no fucking clue.

it’s a slur associated w gay men. & that’s Exactly why it’s used against us. it has the connotations that someone’s a failure for a lack of masculinity. did u really think people are looking at trans women and thinking, “i’m going to throw a slur at her, but i have to respect her identity and not misgender her with a male aligned term, i’m only verbally abusing her I don’t want to be cruel or anything”