oaluz:

its cute to build an identity around being caring or sensitive or introverted or thoughtful… all very understandable espec. when the world is trying to desensitise u on a daily basis

but sometimes i feel like its more worthwhile just to think abt ur actions without being like “I am always this kind of type of person”

instead of saying “i am caring” you can just take a second and care. or if you’re like, i’m sensitive, then take a second and feel.

it seems like a bit of an ego trap to get attached to those labels about yourself, like saying “im a really sensitive person” and thinking that makes it okay when you do something insensitive because its a once off // thinking other people aren’t as sensitive. people might not always be that sensitive but that’s them in that moment. give room for them to change. one day everybody might be able to express their sensitivity

i get though that lots of people feel more secure when they think about things they are, we all want to think good things about ourselves, and that’s okay ❤ i kinda want to come to everything like every person with the openness that they can completely change if they want. like thinking about personalities as really just habits and choices. you can value something like kindness, but valuing it doesn’t make it an inherent part of you. you need to do it. some people’s habits complement each other, but it’s nice when people’s values complement each other, cos that’s when you know that you’re both trying to orient your actions around the same things