johniaurens:

johniaurens:

this may be a controversial opinion to have in the empathy discourse but i think for anyone who experiences empathy it would be useful to consciously learn to tell when ur feeling compassion vs empathy just like for being a better person reasons

and i think especially it’d be good to know how to identify when ur using empathy for reasons like manipulation. and i don’t mean necessarily in a like, Bad Manipulation way just like, when ur using empathy to influence other people

like i’m good at doing stuff like. writing #recommendations for my friends like, wording what i say abt people in ways that other people will find appealing? that’s manipulation

anyway idk food for thought ig