Author: peasantchick

bisexual-evanhansen:

me: *sees positivity post for specific subgroup of people*

me, rubbing my little gay hands together: ho ho HO! I have a friend who follows this blog who is part of that specific subgroup of people! and they are GREAT! hue hue HUE HUE, I’ll reblog this little wee post, and then they’ll see it, ha ha ha! THEN they will feel VALIDATED! hehehehhehehhehehe >:)

aceaventurine:

Saying “Well, the Q is for Questioning!” is not enough to make the community a safe place for questioning people.

It’s great to include them, but it doesn’t mean a lot if in the meantime you constantly joke about people having an oppression fetish, trying to opt-out of their privilege out of guilt, or being silly cishets desperatly wanting to be “kweer” to be cool.

dearbluetravelers:

mediokurrr:

catastrofries:

mediokurrr:

Can i get a step by step on how to do this?

So far for me it’s been something like:

1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.

2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.

3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.

4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.

5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”

Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.

I hope any of that made sense.

This is great advice @catastrofries

[ID: Tweet by punk @NUEPORTS: i took the same energy i used to hate myself and turned it into confidence that’s how you recycle]

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