““Crazy” is one of the five deadly words guys use to shame women into compliance. The others: Fat. Ugly. Slutty. Bitchy. They sum up the supposedly worst things a woman can be. “Crazy” is such a convenient word for men, perpetuating our sense of superiority. Men are logical; women are emotional. Emotion is the antithesis of logic. When women are too emotional, we say they are being irrational. Crazy. Wrong. Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel. Small wonder that abusers love to use this c-word. It’s a way of delegitimizing a woman’s authority over her own life.”
— Harris O’Malley, “Men Really Need to Stop Calling Women Crazy”
Author: peasantchick
The common representation of transwomen being this hyper feminine, painted, shaved, tiny waist, big breasted, tight clothes, long haired image really should say a lot about two things.
1) What men think women should look like
2) What men think being a woman is
Yes, because trans women suffer from misogyny and misogynistic expectations, too—when not represented as masculine, with stubble, fat, with tight clothes revealing “male” features. Which also says a lot.
Men cannot suffer from misogyny. Presenting themselves as hyped up versions of what they think women are is misogyny towards actual women.
If men cannot suffer from misogyny, then—as trans women do suffer from misogyny—we must conclude that they are women.
Besides which, the problem you are describing—that the popular representation of trans women is rooted in misogyny—is genuine, but your conclusion—that trans women are responsible (and thus misogynistic—is a non-sequitur. The problem is with their representation: what society believes they are and expects them to be; not trans women themselves. This is a problem that negatively affects trans women.
Plus like these people love catching trans people in Catch-22’s like this
Look like your identified gender? Relying on sexist stereotypes.
Look like you always did, with some modifications? You’re not “really” trans and just trying to get attention.
Like, can you just admit you don’t want trans people to exist and go already?
As an anecdote, an example that’s stuck in my memory for years was a TERF complaining about trans women turning up to women’s spaces with unshaven legs, citing this as “proof” that they were “actually men”.
I didn’t realise op was a terf immediately because like, they straight up say “the common representation of transwomen” and that’s exactly what cis men think of us, and how they attempt to simultanesously demonise us in the media while sexualising us — see how many trans women on TV in my life are murdered sex workers on crime shows.
like you’re so close. you’re so damn close. you know how bad mainstream representation is for trans women, but then you decide it’s actually objectively correct, that it must a perfect representation of us, made by us.
Uh, that’s how transwomen represent themselves, fam. Real life mimics fiction just as fiction mimics real life. 🙂
consume a lot of trans media then do u
The common representation of transwomen being this hyper feminine, painted, shaved, tiny waist, big breasted, tight clothes, long haired image really should say a lot about two things.
1) What men think women should look like
2) What men think being a woman is
Yes, because trans women suffer from misogyny and misogynistic expectations, too—when not represented as masculine, with stubble, fat, with tight clothes revealing “male” features. Which also says a lot.
Men cannot suffer from misogyny. Presenting themselves as hyped up versions of what they think women are is misogyny towards actual women.
If men cannot suffer from misogyny, then—as trans women do suffer from misogyny—we must conclude that they are women.
Besides which, the problem you are describing—that the popular representation of trans women is rooted in misogyny—is genuine, but your conclusion—that trans women are responsible (and thus misogynistic—is a non-sequitur. The problem is with their representation: what society believes they are and expects them to be; not trans women themselves. This is a problem that negatively affects trans women.
Plus like these people love catching trans people in Catch-22’s like this
Look like your identified gender? Relying on sexist stereotypes.
Look like you always did, with some modifications? You’re not “really” trans and just trying to get attention.
Like, can you just admit you don’t want trans people to exist and go already?
As an anecdote, an example that’s stuck in my memory for years was a TERF complaining about trans women turning up to women’s spaces with unshaven legs, citing this as “proof” that they were “actually men”.
I didn’t realise op was a terf immediately because like, they straight up say “the common representation of transwomen” and that’s exactly what cis men think of us, and how they attempt to simultanesously demonise us in the media while sexualising us — see how many trans women on TV in my life are murdered sex workers on crime shows.
like you’re so close. you’re so damn close. you know how bad mainstream representation is for trans women, but then you decide it’s actually objectively correct, that it must a perfect representation of us, made by us.
They’re Queens from opposing sides of the reef.
They plan to marry to unite their kingdoms.lesbian mermaid request 🙂
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This shall be a beautiful and wonderful kingdom!
Ah they’re so adorable and lovely together!
i saw goody proctor die in infinty war
wlw who flirt platonically with their wlw friends are valid but u gals are so fuckin confusing
me: oh this thing is cute
my wlw friend: not as cute as u babe 😉
me internally: gay??? i know gay but like, gay-gay?? gay????? i’m going to spontaneously combust. will it be for nothing????? is it just, friend gay?? or romance gay?? gay???????????
if Janelle Monáe thinks im gonna spend an hour watching her pansexual fantasy black mirror episode shes absolutely right
Me: Im a good girl but I want to be bad for you
Mcdonald’s Employee: ma’am?
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