If lumping people in with their oppressors is forbidden, then you cannot use LGBT, as it lumps us trans people in with cisgender people, it lumps women in with men, etc.
Maybe learn how intersectionality, demographics, and just plain fucking language work before making such awful arguments for the sake of discourse
It’s also literally a terf argument (they used to say it about the word cis), so…there’s that
Every damn time someone tries to articulate a form of discrimination that specifically effects one group, someone who does not experience that
form of discrimination will get so pissed about the idea of having any privilege at all that they’ll throw a huge fit going ‘YOU ARE GROUPING ME IN WITH MY OPPRESSORS’. No I’m not. I’m naming one form of oppression you do not have to deal with today. Get over it.
Though to be honest, this problem is likely to remain as long as identity politics remains so loaded with this weird sort of ‘self esteem based on my identity + love of all people in my identity + hatred of all people with privilege over me’, which makes the idea of being the privileged party so scary that people freak out at the thought of having any privilege at all.
And the thing is, this is deliberate. It is a way in which liberal identity politics keeps us boxed in, focussing only on our own group at the expense of people we have more in common with. So if our group is trans people, liberal identity politics has us rooting for rich powerful trans people but not for the cis disabled man next door, even though that guy has experiences of oppression that are a lot closer to ours.
Intersectionality stops us from being totally single-issue focussed and helps us do very necessary work focussing more on subgroups of subgroups. Which is useful but not enough. Alongside intersextionality we need cross-identity Solidarity. And the first thing we need to understand is that when we’re fighting the systems of oppression, we need to group ourselves in with those with a different kind of oppression than us, based on a common desire to not be oppressed.
Today some aphobic anon send me a message that literally, seriously, had the sentence ‘cishets are the enemy’ in it, and if that doesn’t show you how far away from solidarity you can get when you take identity politics to its individualist conclusion, I don’t know what does.
Author: peasantchick
How is this even a debate??
If you are in a otherwise healthy relationship and consensually having sex with your partner and then your partner finds out you’re not actually sexually attracted to them that can be SO damaging to your partner. There is no excuse to not be honest about this with your partner. Like you are literally causing your partner harm, and why??? What for??? There’s no valid reason to do this??? Just be honest with the person your in a relationship with, this is not a new concept???
damn I’ve never heard this discourse before. imo I think people should say they’re ace before engaging in sexual activities b/c ace ppl often have different boundaries and communication is healthy, but i can’t offer you any real evidence on the subject, I’m sorry! thanks for bringing this to my attention
god i just love it when people act like they can speak for every conceivable relationship to ever exist ever. i love it when people act like the idea of being closeted/fearful to come out is a concept that doesn’t pertain to aspec people. i love it when people try to portray an orientation as specifically damaging. god it just makes my day ya know?
maybe people stay in the closet because of exactly shit like this, saying an ace partner is “literally causing them harm”, doing intense psychological damage to their partners, and just generally this idea that aces are going out of their way to trap people in unfulfilling relationships, and this idea that a partner coming out as ace is inherently this value statement that their partner must be unattractive and unlovable.
i’m all for healthy communication, but saying that people should feel offended if their partner comes out to them is really clearly the opposite of that
Miss me with the confirmed lesbians sleeping with attractive straight men trope. It’s stupid and it’s dangerous.
Make your character meaningfully, explicitly bisexual, or actually write a lesbian you fools.
#miss me with your gold star shit too #lesbians can have been with men in the past and id as lesbian later #but still #i feel very strongly about this #there are 2 communities in need you could serve #instead you’re making both of them look terrible #and gross #lesbians are what they say they are #and bisexual is NOT a dirty word #so fucking use it
In your village lies the Lake of Memories. If anyone wishes to be rid of a memory, they can write it on a rock, throw it in and forget. Those who wish to be wise often search for rocks to read, but the memory is then theirs to keep. You find a rock in your childhood handwriting.
it’s my childhood trauma and i immediately dunk it back in the lake with a really satisfying BLOOB sound
“trans people have existed the entire time” yo i studied greek and roman literature in college and this dude Lucian (2nd century CE) wrote a piece called Dialogue of the Courtesans and one chapter called “The Lesbians” (unfortunately misnamed) has a courtesan named Leaina tell about a lover she had named Megilla who was AFAB but preferred to be called Megillus and presented himself as male and insisted in very detailed dialogue he was male in every way except for his birth, check it out
thank you! it’s seriously ridiculous how terfs think trans people just popped up in the sixties?? like?? talk about not knowing your own history
there’s also the Cult of Cybele, an important religion to the Roman empire that had a priestess-hood made up of trans women. Catallus, a very famous latin author, wrote about their mythology, where apparently dysphoria is treated as a sacred calling from the goddess. Here’s my fave translation, it doesn’t add in any unnecessary misgendering that wasn’t there in latin, because apparently translators feel the need to do that sometimes. TW for descriptions of intense dysphoria, and a gorey description of ancient bottom surgery.
a good rule of thumb is that if you see the word ‘eunuch’ in a history book, that’s usually a reference to trans women that’s been lost in time thanks to the rise of Christianity.
don’t ever talk to me or my communism ever again
You can’t say your blog is “a safe space for all wlw” if you reblog posts that make a spec wlw uncomfortable.
Don’t say “a spec wlw included” or “all wlw are welcome here” if you:
• reblog aphobic content (both explicit and implicit)
• reblog from aphobes
• refuse to acknowledge a post is aphobic even if an a spec wlw tells you it’s making them uncomfortable
• don’t support a part of our identity
As a neurodivergent ace wlw, I deserve to know if your space is really safe for me, or if it’s dangerous for my mental health.
If it’s not safe for me I just need to know, so I won’t follow you.
I am a lesbian, I am ace, I am neurodivergent: the wlw part of my identity doesn’t erase my sexual orientation and seeing aphobic content in “wlw safe spaces” triggers my anxiety.
Just so y’all know, this blog is absolutely a safe space for aspec wlw. Aphobia won’t be condoned here, ever.
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