some of y’all on this site want to be traumatized or mentally ill and never even think once about recovering. people like to open up their old wounds again and that shit’s toxic to kids who found out they were mentally ill. you make memes and aesthetics that glorify this lifestyle and kids who are just developing their minds see these things and think it’s cool to be this way and never seek help. it’s unhealthy and puts kids at risk. if you wanna romanticize something, romanticize recovering and self love.
theres smth about this post i really dont like but idk how to explain it
It could be because mentally ill people
a) don’t “glorify” or “romanticize” their conditions by making memes about them, it’s for coping which is actually a thing we do to help ourselves deal with it, in part by finding community with whom to commiserate, all of which theoretically should be part of recovery and yet is mysteriously viewed as thinking it’s “cool”
b) may never be able to “recover” depending on what kind of mental illness, personality disorder, or trauma they have, and what kind of resources they have access to
c) may well be Getting Help already from a source or sources even snobbish OP would admit qualifies as Professional and don’t need to wear it as a disclaimer
d) don’t need yet more assholes showing up to tell us we’re not Trying Hard Enough To Get Better, thanks, the world already thinks we’re Worthless/Scary/Evil and treats us that way, no fucking online Cool Points are worth prolonging or worsening symptoms/trauma on top of that
BONUS:
e) Think Of The Children Who Have To See Mentally Ill People Being Okay With Themselves In Public
f) “”””””lifestyle””””””
g) not wanting to get better or seek help/believing there’s no hope/feeling like you don’t deserve to get better is a mental illness symptom, asshole
I mean I’m just spitballing, but.
thanks for putting it into words
literally everyone forgets G
Tag: ableism
Anyway absolutely every single disabled and/or ND person has the right to be anti-recovery in their own life and actions, and to resist the message from both abled and disabled people alike that their value, personhood, and access to support structures is contingent on their ongoing efforts to “better themselves.”
This attitude that anyone not running themselves into the ground in pursuit of the highest standard of health they can achieve is nothing more than a recycling of the ableist attitude that health is indicative of value and while I expect that shit from abled NTs, we can sure as shit do better than to keep pushing it on each other.
fdkfjslfdja ppl are mad that the female protagonist in The Shape of Water doesn’t speak oh my goD she’s the main character nonetheless and communicates with sign language…her “voice” has not been taken away, she just doesn’t communicate in a way that the average person is used to. the force of her voice isn’t heard by her oppressors for precisely that reason – she is “otherized” for it, much like the creature in the tank is for being what he is – and somehow I doubt he speaks conventionally either. that doesn’t mean either of them have no agency.
#‘hmm i dont like that she’s disabled but how do i sugarcoat this?’
“How do I make my deep seated ableism read as a feminist position?”
“Autistic and a-spec coding often go hand in hand because NTs use both of these identities to Other a character and make them seem ‘not quite human’” is a good breakdown of the problem, not “making autistic aspec characters is automatically ableist/aphobic” and CERTIANLY not “lack of sexual attraction dehumanizes characters” and otherwise throwing irl autistic aspecs under the bus
This.
A-spec and autism are both often used to dehumanize. Autistic characters are portrayed as lacking sexual (and usually romantic) urges, attractions, feelings because they “can’t comprehend those emotions.” A-spec characters are often stripped of any emotional “intelligence” and uncaring/ignorant of societal boundaries.
Specifically because autistic coding is usually lacking emotional intelligence and completely ignorant of how to act in public/manners in general and specifically because a-spec coding is usually lacking any sexual/romantic urges and feelings (which is different than lacking sexual/romantic attraction) and often as if the character feels “above” such base urges…
Because the stereotypes that don’t automatically go with being either autistic or a-spec essentially uses the same ridiculous coding as each other, it’s virtually impossible to tell if many writers meant to code autism, a-spectrum, or both. Perhaps no coding was intended at all.
These issues aren’t the fault of a-specs or autistics or a-spec autistics. And they aren’t the fault of a-spec autistic headcanons. These issues are society’s, these issues are with allosexuals and allistics that don’t even try to understand what either of these identities mean or how they intersect.
I’ll continue to headcanon autistic a-specs, because I’m an autistic a-spec, because I know this identity isn’t ableist or aphobic.
Much daily life becomes inaccessible to chronically ill people. And although I still work part time as a rabbi, chaplain, writer, and activist, and I am also an artist, husband, and friend, I am frequently asked whether I am anxious to get back to my “life” — as if being ill precludes living. Even in the months when I have been too sick to do anything, my life of being has still been meaningful. As a rabbi-chaplain, I meet countless sick people who are not productive, but who are nevertheless still precious. Even sick and disabled people who are not “inspiring” have a right to exist. To me, a life of illness is another complex and beautiful way of being human.
Elliot Kukla (via yidquotes)
oh shit
[Caption: Gifs from Community. Craig motions with his hand and says, “Abed, you’re special. Can’t you just stand at the scene of the crime and see what happened?” Abed says, “I see a man…Using a social disorder as a procedural device.” Abed looks around the room as he continues, “Wait, wait, wait. I see another man. Mildly autistic super-detectives everywhere. Basic cable. Broadcast networks. Pain. Painful writing. It hurts.” Abed then walks out of the room.]
If that photo doesn’t terrify you then you don’t understand what’s going on
This photo is more threatening than the ones where they were being pulled out of their chairs and zip tied
[Tweet from ADAPT reads, “he had them sent to jail without their wheelchairs clearly senator portman doesn’t care!”
Image is a police officer pulling an empty motorized wheelchair (mobility scooter?) down the street. Another officer and empty chair are in the background.]
Imagine if they’d kept an able-bodied prisoner in a jail cell but kept their legs (and possibly their hands) bound, so they couldn’t stand up, move around in the jail cell, get out of bed or off the floor.
That would be considered inhumane, and torture, right? If that news got out, humanitarian organizations like Amnesty International would be up in arms. You know they would.
That’s what it means when you take away a person’s wheelchair. That’s why it’s terrifying. But because it’s happening to disabled people, no one except the victims is noticing.
Also note: Power mobility aids like those in the photo can cost as much as a brand-new automobile. And if they get damaged because the authorities don’t know what the hell they’re doing (or they do know, and are motivated by spite or malice), then the person will be just as helpless after they get out of jail.
And Medicare will not replace a damaged or broken wheelchair unless it’s at least five years old.
Now imagine being helpless in a jail cell, unable to move, and having that worry in the back of your mind.
And
no one except the victims is noticing.
*abled bodied voice*: omg… honestly its so hard on ME watching disabled people be… disabled, it rly makes ME feel so bad… u know i saw a disabled person on the street yesrerday… and i… didnt even harrass them!!1 where is my medal????? do you know how hard I try….
saying “you are a burden on society” is just such a weird framing of priorities
It’s like saying “wow, think how much better gas mileage your car would get if you weren’t sitting in it” or “think how dry that umbrella would be if you weren’t holding it in between you and the rainstorm”.
the things we create? they’re for us. they are meant to carry us. they are meant to protect us. we are meant to hold them up to keep us dry.
why do we even have a society if not to take care of each other?
just because the die-in yesterday at mitch mcconell’s office was the first one to get larger media attention in a while, doesn’t mean that this hasn’t been happening and doesn’t justify posts like “when the disabled are protesting your heath care bill you know it’s bad” or stuff about how “when you have the disabled forcibly removed youre despicable” like it’s not despicable to have any protestors removed and erasing the decades of work that disabled activists have done in this country. also don’t say “the disabled” like what the fuck that’s literally sensitivity 101
the first large scale protest for disability rights in the us was a sit-in in the 70s that lasted 25 days, there’s a long and proud history of disability activism in the united states and when you’re implying a. that disabled people only protest when it’s super bad, when disabled people have been fighting for healthcare since the 70s, and implying that these people are not professional organizers, you’re erasing their agency.
one of the women in a wheelchair that was arrested is a defense lawyer, these are people that are prepared for this, most of them have been arrested before, so shut the fuck up with your infantilizing bullshit like you’re so surprised that disabled people have the capability to care about politics and to act in defense of their rights and educate yourself about the work of organizations like adapt, that are the reason why we even have the ADA.
like where the fuck were you when protesters from adapt chained their wheelchairs together in the capital rotunda a couple months ago and were dragged out of their wheelchairs by police, where were you when disabled people (especially disabled people of color) were and are being beaten, arrested and murdered by police, surprise this isn’t some new fad to the trump administration, or some sign of the times that disabled people are protesting,
we have been fighting oppression for decades and you haven’t been listening. and people who are surprised when politicians make comments insulting disabled people like it’s the worst thing you can do (looking at you m*ryl streep) like politicians haven’t been actively pursuing policies to eradicate disabled people (especially poor disabled people and disabled POC) for hundreds of years. newsflash they’ve been trying to kill us, and institutionalize us, and prevent us from every right they can from voting, from public spaces, from jobs, from education, from healthcare, from life.
it doesn’t surprise me one bit that they would publicly insult us and if you were surprised by that then you need to fucking educate yourself. i’m so fucking tired of performative allyship where you pretend to support disabled people or only support the groups of disabled people that you belong to and distance yourself from those “bad” disabled people. if you’re not with all of us, you’re not with any of us.
no wait i’m not done
police vans in dc are wheelchair accessible because of protestors in wheelchairs, many of them from adapt, like think about the slim minority of places that are wheelchair accessible but the police vans sure are, because of how many times these trained activists have been arrested.
also if you’re reblogging an inaccessible version of a post without image description (eg just a tweet or image without the text below for screen readers), congrats for making your “support” for disabled people inaccessible to disabled people, like wow, if you need a more tangible representation of how much the performative allies actually care about disabled people and accessibility, it’s a. not enough to do the bare minimum to make their shitty posts about disabled people accessible to other disabled people, and b. not enough to do the bare amount of research to not make shitty posts.
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