Queer is dangerous to these people; they want it to be a slur.
Weāre here, weāre queer, weāre dangerous to gatekeepers, and thatās a good thing
Itās especially apparent that their real issue is not with it ābeing a slurā when we consider the term āMOGAIā.
This term was not a slur. It had no āproblematicā beginnings, has never been co-opted by straight and cis society, was for us by us, did not include anyone who did not need to be included, but it was very inclusive. So they lied about it, rejected it, and use it as an insult against people. They talk about āThe mogaiās and āmogai identitiesā as though theyāre some kind of joke. They talk about it like itās the worst thing you could be to them.
Again, there is nothing wrong with the term. Itās just too inclusive and encompassing for them. They canāt cause a rift in that community if thatās the acronym. They canāt cut portions out of an ever-expanding community if all the identities are contained within it automatically.
Their current reasoning is āit includes pedophilesā which is a blatant lie (The original coiner was a minor at the time they coined it and theyāre also a CSA survivor). The other reasoning Iāve seen is āit includes cis and straight womenā (It doesnāt). They have NO real reason to reject that term, especially as it was created to BE the umbrella term they claimed to want so desperately without ābeing a slurā. And yet, they do. Because itās too inclusive. āQueer is a slurā is at this point, a deflect. They need it to be a slur because itās too inclusive. They canāt cause a rift in the queer community if the word used for the community is all-encompassing. Just like they need MOGAI to include people it never did, so they can safely reject the label that was just too inclusive for their liking, too difficult to cause rifts in. They need these terms to be dangerous, bad, āproblematicā or a slur, because they need us to not have an encompassing umbrella if they are going to maintain their gatekeeping.
new rule if you say shit like āi donāt care about ace discourse either wayā and then do weird shit like, reblogging both positivity for ace people but also those ālol, look this ace said something cringeyā posts, i unfollow you. i donāt like playing this guessing game of āyeah they just reblogged something gross from someone who thinks aces are fucking āinvadersā, except they havenāt explicitly shared the same sentiment yet, so maybe theyāre still ok to follow?ā. or like, āsure itās a punchline about aces being homophobic/transphobic/incels (fucking what?) but maybe they meant this person specifically and not as a group?ā itās a huge source of anxiety feeling like iām just waiting for you to share the same sentiment.
i definitely Get You that Discourse Tumblr is a garbage fire and an endless source of anxiety and i do a lot to distance itself from it now. but like. if you donāt want to have a ādiscourse stanceā then like… those cringey ace memes are a discourse stance. it means ace people who read your blog get to be subjected to this same guessing game
concept: bring backĀ āsexuality is fluidā but not in aĀ āitās ok to coerce people to be something theyāre notā way, and instead in aĀ āthe boundaries between gay/bi/trans experiences are not as strict as separatist bloggers would like to make you thinkā way, and also a āthere is no shame in someone changing how they identifyā way
hot take: the idea that access to rights, community, resources, and aid being limited and therefore itās necessary to force out groups who donāt need themĀ āas muchā is something thatās been ingrained in us from living in a capitalist society that hands us rights and resources as though they are privileges to be earned
[id: an edit from that superman learn how to count book, lex luthor has the ace flag over his head and the text reads “When no one was looking, aces stole the colour purple. And that’s terrible.”]
i want to add, it’s specifically violet that’s a symbol of love between women. bc of the flower appearing in Sappho’s poetry, it’s been a gift that you give to a girl to tell her you like her for centuries. the purples on the bi and ace flags are just different purples, they’re not meant to depict violet at all.
SayingĀ āWell, the Q is for Questioning!ā is not enough to make the community a safe place for questioning people.
Itās great to include them, but it doesnāt mean a lot if in the meantime you constantly joke about people having an oppression fetish, trying to opt-out of their privilege out of guilt, or being silly cishets desperatly wanting to be ākweerā to be cool.
fun fact: you donāt actually support ace-wlw if you canāt support their ace identity Independent of their gay one. you donāt get to accept their love for girls while overlooking the fact that theyāre on the ace-spectrum and call it support for their queer identity. if you donāt support aces you donāt support ace-wlw.
i feel like the lgbt community is only suddenly aĀ ācommunityā on tumblr when its convenient so they can defend their imaginary territory over ace kids wanting to be accepted
where the fuck was this supposed solidarity when i felt like an inhuman piece of garbage while coming to terms with being nb and seeing literally no nbĀ āāāāresourcesāāāā
exclusionists can fuckin eat me stop basing your sense of community over who you think doesnāt belong and take care of your goddamn own
all exclusionism discourse does is pop up relentlessly to scared and confused kids just trying to learn about themselves and feel like they belong somewhere. its not a good fucking community if people have to wade through drama to get scraps of actual support from your clique-y asses
Iāve seen them say āWhy canāt the aces have a separate but allied community???ā and likeā¦that is literally what the LGBT+ community IS. A bunch of separate (often overlapping and intersecting, true, because humans are multi-dimensional) communities allied together against a multifaceted common enemy.
At least, we SHOULD be allies. But somehow we always end up wasting our energy fighting each other.
the funniest thing about ace discourse is that some people rlly think calling ace people incels is going to make the community a safer place and incite real world change.Ā
i made a donald trump aroace moodboard on tumblr dot edu and the trevor project stopped supporting ace people and providing resources to them.
be the change you want to see.Ā
this idea that iding as queer is inherently liberal. Itās Bad. and I would like to not see it ever again
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