i’ll see your “any amount of even mild joshing about the bad behavior of privileged people is Setting Back the Movement” and raise you “humor is necessary to sustain any movement since responding to every instance of your mistreatment with deadly seriousness and boundless patience is demoralizing” and “a world in which people dare not ever joke at the expense of the powerful without fearing the loss of their fundamental rights is a dystopia, actually”

Please don’t call bi/pan people whores or ace/aro people incels for their identities. Do not belittle others for things they cannot change.

femsaphique:

bilations:

“You don’t suffer on the same scale as us so I’m just going to ignore your problems” is not and never will be a good argument.

There also isn’t a way to even determine who suffers on what scale. Is there an internationally established oppression index we’re going off? Is there an oppression statistic?

How can people even genuinely state who struggles less or more systematically? Like, especially when a lot of statistics say that a lot of us struggle disproportionately..

Are we going to be like “in many surveys it said people like you only experience violence 33%, we experience violence 33.1% of the time so you all basically don’t experience any violence at all”?

I mean, that is basically what a lot of this is in, except people aren’t going off fact, they’re going off their own social theories. Social theories which are usually like “these people are less oppressed because I say so”.

I want someone to actually come with the “objectively only/most suffering” factors they always speak of. I want points that aren’t just “I think you suffer less because I think you suffer less” coming from someone.

pervocracy:

LGBT: insufficiently inclusive

LGBTQQIA: increasingly cumbersome, subject to mockery, still not fully inclusive

GSM: co-opted by pedophiles apparently

MOGAI: utterly swamped in Discourse

Queer: “q-slur”

Non-cishet: negative framing, weaponized against asexuals of insufficient purity

Help: me

#JustAphobeThings

justaphobethings:

pissedcourse:

justaphobethings:

Talking about how ‘toxic’ and awful the split attraction model is yet reinforcing it by insisting ace/aro are only modifiers, and you can only be ace or aro AND something else

bitch ass just say youre bi and ace or straight ace or pan ace or wbatever and move on we dont want the fucking SAM we want literally anything else besides tbe SAM

That’s literally the SAM but go off I guess

winterywitch:

i talked about this a lot on twitter but: if your politics can be summed up by “im going to rescue you from internalized oppression by mocking you and turning your identity/interests into a cringe meme,” you are part of the problem. turn in your Progressive Badge, effective immediately you loser geek

stereks:

a-spec:

if you consider bi people to be lgbt because they are “sga” and not because they arent straight you are reducing bisexuality to partial gayness which.. is nothing new but its always been biphobic and it still is today so can we stop maybe

not to mention that’s also forcing a conversion therapy term onto people, coming from the same ppl that are like “don’t call ppl queer even if they’re ok with it!”

team “bi is transphobic because it means 2″ and team “well actually pansexuality is transphobic because bi already includes trans people” have u guys ever thought about sorting that shit out amongst yourselves? or getting your stories straight instead of spending all that energy policing other people’s sexualities? or have an irl fight to the death idk whatever works for u ridiculous people

Source: socialjusticeichigo

femsaphique:

reversebirthdays:

femsaphique:

You all legit say shit like “aces abusing through forcefully withholding sex” or “aros deceiving you into loving them by being nice to you”..

Somehow you all managed to take all this info together and call inclusionists for incels. Instead of literally describing yourself as incels.

Like this is literally saying you’re involuntarily celibate and being friendzoned, and that people are entitled to having dates or sex with others.

You all don’t get to jokingly call others incels, when you all literally talking with such entitlement about others’ sexualities and dating life.

theyre all suddenly believing again in things like “friendzone” or “leading people on so now you owe them affection/sexual things” and i cant believe they dont realize that

I’d typically call this sort of stuff for regressive, or say it’s going full circle… But you know what this is?

It’s giving in to anti-feminist rhetoric, these people are literally saying the shit people say about women.

Only this time targeted at aromantic and asexual people, a group where if you look at a lot of surveys, also disproportionately seem to be made up of women too.

It’s frankly a mess, but I kind of wish people saw it as the mess it is… It’s a mess that normalises really shitty attitudes. People are saying things to aro/ace people, that they’d not say to many other groups.

And all of this shit is stuff I thought we were past, it was established within sj-circles years ago… But now we’re seeing it loosen up, thanks to how people on tumblr are normalising this bullshit, using the “correct wording” to get away with saying shit we have been rejecting for years.

It’s so surreal to me we haven’t gone away from this, when it’s clearly part of why we’ve been rejecting MRAs now for years. Because people are trying to gain autonomy over others’ bodies.

Now we’re suddenly bending views on guilt-tripping and consent, and how we talk of sex and romance, all to essentially regress to giving validity to the friendzone.