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transgirlnausicaa:

i zeriously don’t give a shit if you’re lesbian and say that you’re penis-repulsed or that you never want to have penetrative sex like obviously these are very very personal things and you have every right to dictate where your personal limits lie with regards to intimacy and sex.

like for REAL there are trans women who are penis-repulsed, who don’t want their own penis touched sexually at all (due to dysphoria or otherwise), who don’t want to have sex at all, who don’t want to have penetrative sex (receiving or giving), And of course there are also trans women who DO want all of these things…
(And there are trans women with a penis who are unable to penetrate or maintain an erection due to HRT or orchiectomy or otherwise, And there are trans women With A Fully Functioning Vagina That Is Physically Indistinguishable From An Average Cis Woman’s Vagina, but i digress…)

but the PROBLEM lies in the fact that people view trans women as a monolith! The problem lies in the fact that people assume that trans women are all just the same as the stereotype that you have built up in your minds! The stereotype of trans women as: a deceptive predatory sexually voracious straight man who will do anything to have sex with cis lesbians!

It’s not a problem for you to have your personal boundaries regarding intimacy and sex! What is a problem is when you have a malicious ideology against trans women and place your personal boundaries into this rubric. There is nothing forcing you to do that. There is nothing forcing you to apply malicious misinformation and stereotypes to trans women. There is nothing forcing you to call transgender women male, or men, or trannies, or transmale, or male-to-trans, or transwomen, (as a distinct and separate category from “Real” cis women!!) it is cruel and bigoted and transmisogynist for you to do these things.

However I will never concede the fact that stereotypes influence how you perceive people! And as a corollary to this fact, I can certainly say that there is transmisogyny among cis people. There IS a major phenomenon of straight men, lesbians, and bi/pan people, of any gender, viewing trans women as disgusting and ugly and undateable and To Be Avoided DUE TO STEREOTYPES AGAINST TRANS WOMEN.

This is not simply an issue that has regards to dating, obviously, it is something that informs all social interactions that other people have with trans women.

And, before you twefs jump in with “not being dated isn’t oppression!” I am going to pre-empt you and state that this is a similar issue to how straight women are homophobic towards bisexual men and avoid them and refrain from socializing with them or dating them, this is a similar issue to how white women and men are racist towards black men and avoid them and refrain from socializing with them or dating them.
Not equating these issues, just pointing out that social avoidance IS a part of interpersonal oppression against marginalized groups.

My position is that stereotypes and social norms inform behavior towards trans women and you have to take responsibility for how your bigoted rhetoric impacts the people it’s leveled against.

Bi and straight radfems are allllllways talking about how disgusting trans women are and it generally seems that they don’t even have any trans women as friends let alone date them, and I can’t help but beg the question: You don’t actually truly view us as men, do you? In fact, to you, we must be something different than men because you treat us terribly different than you treat men. You treat us much worse than you treat men, which is a major failure of your supposedly self-identified man-hating agenda. Get good, frankly.

Another pre-emptive statement before someone makes an ugly and unnecessary comment: I’m engaged and have been monogamous for 7 years so this is literally not a weird ideological quest for romantic contact for me, regardless of how so-called radical feminists might twist my words.

i can’t believe people are honestly confused about what Straight privilege is and how it’s different from being just heterosexual/hetromantic

example. on one hand, we have het trans women. these are trans women that are attracted only to men. but the Straight trans woman is about 1000 times more rare. there’s an obscene set of standards that are required for a trans woman to get even a fraction of straight privilege to work:

  • cis passing
  • completely 100% gender conforming, but careful not to approach hyperfemininity or anything that would call extra scrutiny to her presentation
  • almost certainly truscum. will have ‘only two genders’ memes up on her facebook
  • has had bottom surgery, will look down on trans people who don’t want or can’t afford bottom surgery as fucking Deviants
  • yes that’s right it’s quite likely that it’s completely impossible for a pre-op/non-op trans woman to have straight privilege because that shit evaporates the second anyone can connect you to even a hypothetical penis
  • not a condition, but the mythical Straight trans woman will generally always hold the one massively outdated and misleading theory about transness being “an intersex condition of the brain”, that an accident of birth Literally put a female brain in the wrong body.
  • we’re talking ‘50s sexism where Lady Brains are hardwired for nurturing, communicating and shopping. Any modern ideas on gender equality immediately disqualifies you from being the Acceptable trans woman
  • we’re talking, the girl asking the guy out first being an unmentionable sin. the acceptably straight trans woman has to be completely fucking passive in anything involving sex and relationships
  • disavowing anything related to being LGBTI or Queer, absolutely no pride in being trans
  • the other trans women come under the T, but not the Straight trans woman. the T is for trans people who don’t want to be completely normal
  • trans pride is for people who are being trans wrong. Trans is Suffering
  • we’re talking about people so terrifyingly determined to be Straight and Completely fucking Normal that they’ve spent their life purging anything not completely gender-conformative about their presentation, and distancing themselves from actually being associated with trans people (this isn’t meant to be a judgement statement bc this is really all for personal safety)
  • notice how i haven’t even mentioned sexuality yet
  • but yes, the straight trans woman is completely straight
  • Totally Vanilla straight. polyam is forbidden. even kink is suspect, because it could mark you as a deviant. the only acceptable kink is like, 50 Shades of Grey style shit where the Dude always Doms and even a blindfold is risqué
  • I’m out of points but feel free to reblog this and add more Straightness conditions for trans women because all the terms and conditions are frankly astounding if we could count them all up

so. while the het-attracted trans women are capable of homophobia, it’s only the Straight trans women who are capable of benefiting from homophobia by virtue of being accepted into the class of Straights. these are the kind of people who can make homophobic jokes at work to make friends with straight co-workers. the kind of people who get high-fives after verbally abusing someone openly gay or trans. the kind of trans women who, (if white) gets promotions for looking like Everyone Else

and here’s an accompanying list of how to have Straight privilege as a nonbinary person:

  • you literally can’t wtf
  • straightness as a concept literally is incompatible with nonbinary identities
  • It’s Adam and Eve not two gender neutral names
  • when the fuck have you heard a third option in ‘”marriage is between a man and a woman”
  • an AFAB nonbinary and a dude is a fundamentally non-straight couple
  • an AMAB nonbinary and a woman is a non-straight couple
  • an AMAB nonbinary and an AFAB nonbinary couple is, do i have to say it, not straight
  • whatever they call their relationship, they’re the opposite of straight
  • even if they’re completely cis passing
  • i swear to god some of you people are trying to categorise Straight people as literally any couple with one peen and one vageen
  • if you don’t know how to categorise sexual attraction without erasing someone’s gender identity then u should probably have a time out with all the other transphobes
  • i can’t believe i have to tell you this because bi people have been saying this for literally decades but: having PIV sex isn’t the thing that magically bestows straight privilege upon someone. being straight is an identity and a position of privilege and nothing as simple as an action
  • straight privilege doesn’t land on anyone who doesn’t identify strictly as straight, or as strictly a man or a woman
  • literally how did we get this far that i need to write a refresher course on this. how did we let this become controversial

basically, remember Straight isn’t just the opposite of being gay. Straight is the opposite of being gay, lesbian, bi, pan, ply, trans, nonbinary, queer, ace, aro. Straight is the opposite of every marginalised gender/sexual identity. that’s why they’re marginalised, as in pushed to the margins in favour of Straightness as the default, the one identity allowed to be normal.

clitcheese:

clitcheese:

callout post for myself, @clitcheese 

  • has had consensual sex without first disclosing that they are possibly on the aro spectrum somewhere
  • cishet ace
  • has clitoris in their url, quite possibly a terf
  • no really, exclusionists have said both those last ones to me
  • when i had trans lesbian in my bio
  • i’m a Very Allo Lesbian guys i’m not even ace
  • can i make it any more clear that i’m a lesbian who feels sexual attraction. i have the sexual desire to fuck girls and nonbinary people. do i need to say im allo in my bio or something so people stop assuming i’m Not A Real LGBT
  • also doesn’t tag the Q slur :/

i have a terf criticising me as a header image. if u can’t even,, be bothered to hover ur mouse over my url then you should give up on the Discourse tbh

like………. it’s the word clit. my url is in protest of terfs trying to claim a monopoly on the clitoris. i am a trans girl w a clit, lads
#reciepts

@patrexes said: 

but see if u say ur allo then ur ~weirdly and uncomfortably preoccupied by ace ppl and acephobia~

I’m even oversexualising myself, and uncomfortably insinuating that my sexual desires are inherently sexual. gosh

clitcheese:

callout post for myself, @clitcheese 

  • has had consensual sex without first disclosing that they are possibly on the aro spectrum somewhere
  • cishet ace
  • has clitoris in their url, quite possibly a terf
  • no really, exclusionists have said both those last ones to me
  • when i had trans lesbian in my bio
  • i’m a Very Allo Lesbian guys i’m not even ace
  • can i make it any more clear that i’m a lesbian who feels sexual attraction. i have the sexual desire to fuck girls and nonbinary people. do i need to say im allo in my bio or something so people stop assuming i’m Not A Real LGBT
  • also doesn’t tag the Q slur :/

i have a terf criticising me as a header image. if u can’t even,, be bothered to hover ur mouse over my url then you should give up on the Discourse tbh

like………. it’s the word clit. my url is in protest of terfs trying to claim a monopoly on the clitoris. i am a trans girl w a clit, lads
#reciepts

patrexes:

anyway not to be That Person but like every time some cis lesbian is like “oh no!!! dicks in my femslash!!” it just makes me want to write approx 2000 more non-op girls out of pure unmitigated spite

a billion dicks? in my femslash? its more likely than you think