Happy Intersex Awareness Day! 💜🌈
(Image description: Pink and white text on blue backgrounds. Left: “I support intersex human rights.” Right: “Intersex people should have control over their medical decisions”.)
Tag: intersex
tbh I’m not a big fan of the idea of “if you hold on long enough, discoursers will get bored and move onto another victim”. I don’t want there to be another victim. why is ace discourse like this.
actually i wanna add on bc as an intersex person this especially troubles me. you can already see exclusionists talking about how “intersex ppl arent inherently lgbt” and although theres no real main “intersex discourse” yet, were just collateral right now, its still really scary because its indicative of what could very easily come next. and the fact that intersex ppl already have so little representation in the public conscious, even less than aces, means that if such a discourse does come to pass it could easily damage our progress. i wonder if exclusionists realize that.
they think they can do whatever they want because “youre not oppressed” and then their gross opinions damage the movement to gain visibility of our oppressions and fight back against them. what happens if theres someday an intersex discourse and people hear about it, specifically other lgbtq+ people, and the belief that we dont belong makes rounds in our community? other lgbtq+ people hear this info coming from other lgbtq+ people and they believe it because its coming from our own mouths. itll spread to pericistraight people too, and well just be at an even larger loss, because then itll continue to be the accepted belief that its okay to hurt intersex people for being intersex, its okay to want us gone, and things will get worse for us. lord knows exclusionary veliefs are already making things worse for aces, hopefully it doesnt spread any further but i dont have much hope.
exclusionists see movements that are still gaining ground and think that because theyre not so public right now that theres nothing there. they dont think in terms of why things happen, or of the future. theyre only concerned with stepping on others to get what they want. “youre stealing resources from us!” no, theres plenty to go around; you just want them all for yourselves.
its really sad. i didnt start identifying as m-spec until the m-spec discourse had long passed (im still not even sure i really do), so it was the ace discourse that really got me. ive always been aroace, since i was just a little kid that was how i identified, and all of a sudden a bunch of people i thought i could really trust turned against me and im told this is actually fairly common, in fact, the same thing happened just awhile ago. i thought the only hate i would be getting would be from my oppressors, but i was wrong in thinking that somewhere advertised as a safe space would be free of them. and thats horrible. i shouldnt have to be on-guard here, of all places. if i was already m-spec i would have known this, which is also a terrible realization. and now im watching as the next target is slowly being worked in… another one of my identities.
being intersex is one of the most important parts of my identity. so is being aroace. if intersex discourse is the next thing that comes out of this, idk if ill be able to handle it. if yall see me there its going to be the shortest discourse ever because im not gonna be doing anything but spamming the tags with “shut UP.”
aros and aces and bi people and pan people and nb ppl and intersex ppl are all inherently lgbtq+, dont kill the movement to spread awareness of our inclusion just because you prefer things to be the way they used to be, when you had all the resources that were there and we had none. i really, really dont want to have to fight to convince anyone of something so obvious after /this/.
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