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adhighdefinition:

dontaskmetofocus:

adhighdefinition:

cosmicblushes:

love that adhd feel when “and there goes my ability to read”

why u ask?

– it’s too noisy
– my brain keeps thinking too many Thoughts
– re-read it again till u die
– BOREDOM!!!
– constantly zoning out
– the tiny sound in the distance
– too stressed out because I CAN’T READ

isn’t adhd fun!!!

– wait… that’s not what it said… or is it?

– i just skipped eight lines wtf

– is this English?

– where the fuck was i

– *gets up to do something* *never returns*

– wait how long have I been reading for

– I remember Nothing (except for a few unnecessary things in excruciating detail )

– must move NOW

– font bad

– song stuck in my head

*GETS UP TO DO SOMETHING* *NEVER RETURNS*

mentalisttraceur:

thequantumqueer:

patrexes:

patrexes:

whats with the “"you’re not really mentally ill unless you spend at least 3hr/day publically decrying yourself for the evil evil things you think about”“ crap like, my guy, calm the fuck down

@dromaeocore said: The best way to DEAL with intrusive thoughts like that IS to just… let them roll over you, try not to get yourself into a spiral of self-hate and self-destruction about it. ALL that does is reinforce them. /Not Giving The Thoughts Power/ is like, #1 treatment for Pure-O OCD, mine’s gotten SO much better as I’ve learned to do that. why the fuck do people encourage doing the literal exact opposite??

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy: “i can’t stop thinking about doing bad things” and “i’m not a bad person” are compatible concepts and the best way to deal with those thoughts is to accept that you have them and then move on.

tunglr dot hell: you’re not mentally ill unless you hate yourself for your bad thoughts, and if you disagree then you’re anti-recovery

Seen this mindset deployed a lot in a sort of implicit-unquestioned-basis way, and have some followers who could benefit from hearing this.

Your bad thoughts aren’t you. Some of us think and imagine some fucked up shit that would be really disturbing and heinous if we did them in real life. Some of us even reflexively feel positive emotions about it sometimes.

If you already decided those things are wrong and if you’re confident you’re not going to act on them, then it literally just makes things worse if you emotionally hurt yourself over the fact that you still experience those things.

sockknitterporg:

cowardlyshitfish:

riotrite:

If someone tells you they have a disability, please for the love of god don’t try to say you have the same difficulties, unless you’re actually disabled. You don’t, and I promise you, we hear that shit alllllll the time; it doesn’t feel like empathy, it feels like intentional ignorance.

For example, I have a pretty serious memory disability. But I’m smart and talkative and 27, so when I tell people I’m disabled, they almost never take me really seriously. They tell me “haha, me too” or “oh, I forget my keys all the time.” No. That’s not how it works for me. I have memory loss to the extent that it seriously affects my relationships and functionality. I don’t even have the same sense of time as you.

My disability makes me different from most people in crucial ways and that’s why I tell people about it. I’m not looking for you to tell me how we’re similar because 1) I know those things already because I have to and 2) that’s the precise opposite of what I’m trying to tell you, for both of our benefits.

So just don’t. If someone tells you about their disability, just acknowledge it. We know it makes you uncomfortable, but we’re telling you for a reason. So please, just listen. It’ll be way easier.

sincere question: what kind of response would you like to receive instead of forced sympathy? bc i’m rlly bad at communicating w people so any help would be appreciated /o

A sincere answer, albeit a long one.

I have chronic fatigue. I have not been well rested since the mid 1990s, aka before most people on tumblr were born. This leads to EXTREME cognitive difficulty. I need a calculator for simple addition unless both numbers are under 4. (that’s right, I need a calculator for 4+3) I am so tired that I have black spots in my vision. I am prone to just straight up collapsing. And that’s not even touching on the pain that comes with it.

When people say “oh, I had to pull an all nighter once, I get it,” what I hear is “I think you’re exaggerating. It can’t possibly be any worse than pulling an all nighter.”

The appropriate response is simple – show me that you understand that what I’m describing is truly above and beyond what is normal. That can take several forms – “holy shit that’s fucked!” if swearing is your style. “My god, I can’t even imagine,” if it’s not.

“I had to pull an all nighter once, but I couldn’t imagine going without sleep for *that* long.” That’s good, you’re relating it to your own experience WITHOUT crossing the line into “it can’t be worse than my experience!”

However. (This is the important part.) Most of us don’t just announce this information randomly or for laughs. I noticed in your tags (if I read them correctly and can remember what I read correctly) that you said you’re neuroatypical. Why would you add that information? I’m guessing that it was to let people know before responding to you that you aren’t on the same page as a neurotypical. It was (I’m guessing) because you wanted people to modulate their response to you rather than holding you to the same standard as a neurotypical.

Because if you were neurotypical, I would not have interpreted your question as sincere. I would have read it as sarcastic, belittling, and patronising. But you’re not neurotypical, and so I believe you that it’s a sincere question, and so I’m giving you a sincere answer.

When I tell someone I’m disabled, I do it for the same reason.

“Please don’t be offended if I yawn while you’re talking to me, I mean you no disrespect but I have chronic fatigue.”

“I’m sorry I forgot your birthday, I have memory loss stemming from my chronic fatigue.”

“I’m sorry for asking you to do me a favour, but while it’s a simple thing for you, I’m unable to do it because of my disability.”

I tell people I’m disabled… Generally because I need something from them. Usually that thing is understanding. Sometimes it’s slightly more practical, but that’s more of an offline interaction thing.

If someone tells you they’re disabled, the best response is “Is there anything you need from me? Is there anything I should know?”

edashara:

raychillster:

your depression will convince you that isolation and loneliness is what’s best for you to heal but it’s a lie!! if you want to heal, you need to surround yourself around the most loving and supportive people you know. bask in the love of your loved ones. don’t let depression tell you that being alone is safe. isolation leaves you trapped in your own dark thoughts and energy. some extra love and support will help clear that energy out of the air.

…. u read my mind…

rowanhampton:

Very tired of our lives being seen as not worth living.

[Image Description: A two-part illustration in monochrome dark blue. The illustration features five disabled people: A cane user, a manual wheelchair user, a person with an invisible disability, a person with a prosthetic leg, and a power chair user. The first illustration focuses on their feet, captioned “We are NOT disposable.” The second illustration features their smiling faces, captioned “We are not a fate worse than death.”]

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