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transiting:

don’t make other people’s decisions for them. apply for the job you don’t think you’ll get. let them decide if you have the skills they’re looking for. tell that person you like them even though you think they’re out of your league. let them decide if they like you. stop trying to predict and control everything. bring what you have to the table. let the rest go.

bihets:

bullgod1997:

bihets:

my problem with the whole ‘mogai hell’ thing is the faux-caring attitude people employ when they talk about it. like they’ll talk about how the ‘mogai community’ is damaging to questioning gay people, or lesbians, or bi people, because it might convince them they’re, like, ‘abroromantic sapphoaesthetic womasexual’ instead of just being a lesbian.

so they’re worried that mogai might cause young lgb people to have internalized homophobia. ok. but then, how do they approach these young people who are identifying as whatever identity they’ve determined is ‘mogai hell’ today? do they show these young people understanding or compassion?

no. they screenshot their blogs to make fun of them, they participate in ‘cringe culture’, they make troll blogs where they jokingly adopt these ‘mogai hell’ identities, and they make frequent mean-spirited jokes about ‘cringey’ 14 year olds calling themselves autochorissexual. so they clearly don’t actually care about young people with internalized homophobia, or they wouldn’t be loudly mocking them like this. they just want to bully people. it’s concern trolling at its finest, and it’s pretty transparent.

I know I just reblogged this but something about it didn’t sit right and now I know what it is.

For some people labels are important. Some people need general labels and some people need more specific microlabels. Both of these are fine and completely valid.

But when people start mocking “mogai hell” not only is that being a piece of shit masquerading as worry about how mogai might cause internalised homophobia, it’s also taking the piss out of lesser known identities.

oh absolutely! my intention wasn’t to say that all mogai identities cause internalized homophobia, but that if that’s what these ‘anti mogai’ discoursers genuinely believed, they’d be showing people with ‘mogai identities’ compassion rather than just bullying them and calling them cringey.

but yeah, what you said is also absolutely true. for a lot of people, having a very specific term to describe your identity is extremely important! so when discoursers automatically default to making fun of someone for using a specific label, they’re hurting those people as well. it’s all just super gross overall tbh

gothhabiba:

gothhabiba:

gothhabiba:

imagine the drama if characters from classical literature engaged in tumblr antics

CALLOUT POST for Fitzwilliam Darcy

  • did not consider me handsome enough to dance with
  • has been the means of ruining, perhaps for ever, the happiness of a most beloved sister

  • reduced George Wickham to his present state of comparative poverty (I don’t have receipts on this but trust me)

  • is full of arrogance, conceit, and selfish disdain of the feelings of others; is ungentlemanlike in general

EDIT: I HAVE RESCINDED ALL CALLOUTS OF MR. DARCY He is now my husband (long story)

micooll:

tip for healing via tumblr: blacklist everything from things that trigger you to only things that have just been annoying to look at. unfollow people you don’t want to see on your dash. unfollow that mutual that posts depressive shit that doesn’t help your mental health. block people who piss you off. etc. blacklist guilt trippy phrases. go to lengths to make your experience on tumblr more enjoyable and doesn’t have a negative impact on your mental health. you get enough of being annoyed and negative emotions in real life and during the day, but this is tumblr. it’s meant for fun, not to make you feel worse or affect how you see yourself. give yourself a break

heyatleastitsnotcancer:

Disabled people get robbed of so many experiences. If I’m well enough to work, I’m spending every second of earned pto into being sick, doctors appointments, hospital stays, etc. I never once in a year got to take a pto day for me. Every singl one in a year went to chronic illness related things.

Now if you aren’t working because you’re sick, then you don’t have the money to go.

It’s impossible to win and be on the same playing field as abled people. It starts to wear you down after a while. You’ve earned it they same way they have but you can never cash in like them.