you know what i think cis people, and especially lgb cis people, rely too much on people validating their romantic revulsion to trans people. like i’ve never met an lgb trans person who wasn’t asked “what do you think of gay people who aren’t willing to date you because of your transition status/agab/etc” and it’s the emotional labor we’re forced to carry to just say “no i don’t think you’re an evil cis gay for not being attracted to me, it’s within your right to have boundaries” an whatnot lest we be The Evil Transes Who Will Rape You.
like is it not enough to just reject us and go? can you just be satisfied in the knowledge that, yes you are rejecting us because we’re trans, but you’re gonna leave us with enough dignity to not say that’s why. we already know our attractiveness is in a permanent state of “up for debate” can you at least do this the simple courtesy of shutting up about it?
thank you to all the cis lesbians reblogging this but i still see almost no cis men reblogging it
you’re all like “i love trans women!” but how many of you have actually loved a trans woman. you all want to play at supporting us but how many of you actually want to understand us. do you have any close trans woman friends? like actually close. like important enough to you you’d be willing to lose cis friends defending them. do you hang out with trans women outside of activist spaces? outside of tumblr? in group discussions when you hear a trans woman speak, do you tense up? if a trans woman says something you have to think about for more than 5 seconds do you do that work? or do you immediately reject and ignore it. if a trans woman disagrees with every other person you know does it ever cross your mind that everyone else might be wrong? when a trans woman asks for financial assistance on tumblr and you know you have that money to spare, do you help her? if you’re broke, and she just asks you to reblog her post, do you reblog it? or do you just scroll past and pretend you didn’t see it.
“support trans women” is a lie meant to make you feel good. you cannot support trans women. you can only support A trans woman, and then do that over and over again with every trans woman you meet.
Small addition of cis people not understanding that this post isn’t about how dogs feel about being misgendered:
You can’t tell the gender identity of a person by looking at them? What a shocking revelation!
Because sentient trans people on tumblr care about violent transphobia and journal it on tumblr is somehow seen as just complaining or whatever the fuck
Yeah you care more about dogs than human beings go back to your cave
had this sitting around for a while before i realized there was only an hour left of pride month so i finished it up @>@ a trans bug !!!!! drawing this made me happy ❤
like. i am all for trans men talking about the ‘smol precious child’ thing but it takes about 0.001 fucking seconds of thinking about it to realise that people doing this tend to also treat trans women the opposite. like we’re gigantic ogres.
the YASS QUEEN, SLAY bullshit we get isn’t any better either; we’re treated as fucking spectacles. people can’t process that our daily lives aren’t a drag performance for all to gawk at. just please fucking think about what you’re saying about trans women before you post omg
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