Tag: trans stuff

what autigender isn’t: a label used by non-autistic people, a label used by cis people, a label made up for attention, a label that causes harm to autistic people, a label that causes harm to trans people
what autigender is: a label used by a trans/nonbinary autistic person whose experience is that being autistic so deeply affects their understanding of their own gender that it’s hard or impossible to describe their gender as anything other than “autistic,” or to otherwise see their gender as separate from their autism

“you wanna be oppressed so bad” ah yes… as an enby, i have… totally never heard this before… its compeltely new to me… never heard that before… nope… all this “mogai tumblr is bad because look at these ridiculous ids” too? totally new! never been used against me before! not to mention suuuuper reductive logic of “if you dont fit this label (thats based in attempts to “cure” it) then really youre a privileged invader!”, never seen that before either… what?truscum? i dont know her.

lesbiantiope:

Omg I love you

nbpsiioniic:

I want people to stop attacking nonbinary people who describe their genders in abstract, flowery terms. And I want them to stop dismissing them as “just teenagers who don’t know any better”, too.

You know why? Because cis people do the same thing all the time and nobody bats an eye about it.

Manhood and womanhood are associated with symbols, colors, animals, astronomical objects, mythological figures, a whole list of things that have no inherent gendered properties, and that’s fine. (A lot of those symbols are stereotypical, but some binary people still embrace them, while others have come up with alternate symbols that better reflect what being a man or woman means to them.)

If men and women can describe their genders in abstract, symbolic, poetic terms, so can nonbinary people.

If you sent me that lovely anon, I’d love to say that I support lgbt but there’s a limit to the bullshit I can handle. Less than 2 percent of the population is trans. I’m pretty sure there is at least 20 times more dogs than trans people. Have a wonderful day :)

transfemale:

I just got home to answer your dumbass messages. Don’t even try to say you support the lgbt community when you give more of a shit about misgendering dogs over human beings. 

me, landing a sick burn on the SJWs: did you know there’s like, so many dogs

homojabi:

Reminder that “nonbinary women” includes transfeminine folks & trans women who identify that way too and if you’re making the assumption that “nonbinary women” can only be non-transfeminine/trans women you’re alienating a huge group of people from their identity. I see people always assuming that nonbinary women were assigned she/her pronouns or that they can bind and take T (not even that they do but that they can) and while that describes some nonbinary women/their experiences it’s doesn’t describe many others. Stop alienating and ignoring the experience of nonbinary trans women and transfeminine people.

enjoloras:

softgrantaire:

The concept of ‘passing’ as a whole is gross, but please don’t judge a trans person for wanting/needing to ‘pass’.

Men can wear dresses, yes. But don’t be rude if a trans man refuses to wear anything even vaguely ‘feminine’.

No, women don’t need to wear skirts every day. But don’t be rude if a trans woman wears nothing but dresses and skirts and heavy, heavy make up.

It’s a dangerous, sick world, and it’s a pity that the societal concept of ‘passing’ is so ingrained in us, but it is. It is deeply ingrained in us. It’s terrible and life threatening, so don’t judge a trans person for adhering to strict gender roles.

This is so important. A trans man dressing very masculine and presenting very masculine is not him adhering to ‘toxic masculinity’ – it’s him trying to survive.

A trans woman wearing dresses, mastering her make-up and shaving her legs is not her ‘perpetuating gender roles’ – it’s her trying to survive.

Or maybe it’s just because they like to present like that! That’s also fine. Or at least, it should be, but society says no.

Cis people get to choose how they want to present – trans people don’t. We’re damned if we do, damned if we don’t. We’re either ‘not really trans’ for not presenting a certain way, or we’re ‘upholding toxic gender roles!’ If we do. We’re trapped in a weird eternal transphobic ‘gotcha!’

nonbinarypastels:

this is your reminder that you’re allowed to create new words for your gender identity.

if none of the existing terms out there feel like a good fit, for whatever reason, you’re allowed to create a new word that does. this is true even if there are existing terms that come close to matching what you feel but aren’t quite right and it’s true even if there are terms that match what you feel exactly but you just don’t like the term itself and want something different.

there is nothing inherently awful about creating new words for gender identities. it doesn’t make you a “special snowflake” or a “faker” or mean anything else negative about you or your identity. you don’t need some kind of special permission to do it. you don’t even need a tale of woe and angst about why you’re doing it. you don’t have to justify it, like you’re trying to explain why it’s okay, to anyone.