Little message of hope for those afraid to come out to their friends.
My core friend group: cis bros.
Dude bro cis bros. Chicks. Drinks. Games. Gym. Those were my pals.
So, as you’d imagine, I was a little afraid to come out to my boys, and left it at “I might be gay or something, idk.”
When I bit the bullet and came out as a trans chick, none of them were surprised.
In terms of “adjustment”, there wasn’t any. And each one of them worked hard to understand, brush up on terms, learn more about transgender things, and even went as far to chastise each other for “a weak pronoun game.”
They complimented me when I felt down, encouraged me to try new things, and the only way my friendship with them changed is that our bonds grew even stronger.
There is no perfect formula for coming out, and no matter what your relationships or circumstances, you’re well in your rights to feel a little nervous.
It’s perfectly okay, but the ones you love can truly surprise you in amazing ways you never thought were possible.
Best wishes to any of you waiting for your moment. Love, Tina
text in the image: a tweet by @JulianKJarboe on twitter: “God blessed me by making me transsexual for the same reason he made wheat but not bread and fruit but not wine: because he wants humanity to share in the act of creation. I am only doing the Good Works here on Earth as intended!”
What a beautiful gift it is to be trans and/or nonbinary! God invites all of us to be co-creators. None of us come forth from the womb fully formed – we are all called to grow, to transform, to become. Those of us who are trans/nonbinary get to do that in a unique way.
this is so beautiful. And as a transgender man who is still part of the church, if not as actively as my family, I have struggled to find a way to express these exact thoughts in words.
I hope that someday I can have the courage to tell it to my family as well, that the reason I am walking this path is because I believe it is part of what God wants and intends for me in my growth as a human, and not because I think he made a mistake.
you ever have 8,045 bad mental health days in a row
you ever have 8,046 bad mental health days in a row
thats 22 years of bad mental health are you okay
you ever have 8,050 bad mental health days in a row
They’re deactivated now and I really hope they are okay, but my nihilism is telling me something else. 😦
nah i just changed urls a few times. i came out and transitioned, graduated college, and got an amazing girlfriend who lights up my life. i had to delete the queued update to this post that said 8400 days for my 23rd birthday because i’m in a really good place right now.
to everyone struggling: it really does get better.
The irony is that when a trans man says something about gender, people have this “Oh well, he must have personal insight, having been both” (lots of times the dude specifically says this) whereas when trans women say things about gender, the idea is that she isn’t allowed to have opinions on women, men, or gender at all, having failed to belong to either gender.
Because people would rather present trans people as suffering due to an inherent aspect of our existence rather than address the transphobia in our society. Similar reason to why gender dysphoria is presented as a universal trans experience and gender euphoria is never remotely addressed
lionesses that grow manes and lions that don’t fish and amphibians that change reproductive sex depending on age, environment, or availability of mate an entire species where the vulva and clitoris adapted into an organ outwardly indistinguishable from a penis, complete with a scrotum—spotted hyenas some bears who show that as a mutation, including individuals known to have given birth countless documented cases of same-sex partnerships in animals that mate for life insects where the semen-bearing sex is the one that receives penetration and the ova-bearing sex is the one that has a penetrative phallus seahorses, my gods, you should know about seahorses by now “male” cuttlefish that present as female and seek to mate with other females countless species where the larger, more aggressive sex is female and the smaller, flashier one is male
but for your science fiction or fantasy setting, you decided that most nonhuman sapients have a strict gender binary that maps perfectly to contemporary western human cultural standards?
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