janes-nature-garden:

thetolerantleft:

As a trans girl, growing up hearing the cultural trope of like β€œyou can be whatever you want to be” and β€œjust be yourself” was genuinely infuriating because I knew it was a lie. They didn’t mean it. Eventually looking back it was so strange how often I heard that and how untrue it proved to be once I heeded the advice.Β 

damn… this is too real.

transgenderteensurvivalguide:

decaheda:

Riley J. Dennis is honestly a gem

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A collection of tweets from Riley J. Dennis (@RileyJDennis) on Twitter

I’ve still never seen a trans woman (who’s not a random twitter egg troll) claim that you HAVE to fuck them or you HAVE to like dick

some trans women:Β β€œsociety views us as unattractive and that’s harmful”
come cis women:Β β€œYEAH WELL I DON’T WANNA FUCK YOU”
…okay cool

like this is always framed asΒ β€œpoor cis lesbians being attacked by trans women who demand to be fucked” but that’s never been our argument

β€œit’s not transphobic to have a preference for one type of genitals over the other” is true in the same wayΒ β€œall lives matter” is true

yes those statements are technically correct but they’re used to avoid deeper discussions about cissexist/racist issues in our societyΒ 

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Questions for trans women.

thedeadflag:

tura23:

I’m writing a post apocalypse story with a trans woman as a character, and my research is getting me nowhere. Whenever I google trans + apocalypse all I get are posts by crazy conservative jackasses.

How would a trans woman deal with a post apocalyptic situation?

I need to know about what happens to her physically – what hormones does she need to take and how often? What happens if she can’t get them? Are there other things that I don’t know about?

I mean, I’m going to be honest with you, it kind of grinds my gears when people think up certain types of setting that would essentially ensure our suffering and then toss trans women into them, and wonderΒ β€œHrm…how would she deal? What medication would she need and what if she couldn’t get any?”

Like, no one wants to write fics where trans people can reasonably be happy. And that’s a big problem. The world is hard enough as is, what’s the goal or purpose of making life exponentially harder for us besides some detached morbid curiosity? It’s honestly the most common thing. Folks are always thinking up story ideas that would make our existences harder, worse, more painful, as if it’s a challenge. It deeply confuses me.

About a year back, someone approached me with an idea they had for a fantasy setting akin to when pirates were going around (so like, the 1600s or something maybe), and they wanted to have a trans woman character as a main, and one of the first things they talked about was wanting to know how trans women would deal with not having access to modern medicine.

My answer was either don’t write it, implement magic as a means for her to readily and easily have access, or add in a time-traveler that gave an implant that disperses meds indefinitely. You can’t just set trans characters up for failure and then happily write about it. That’s transphobic and horrible.

Like, our medication is literally medically necessary. That means that without it, we are in clear and present danger of dying. Sure, it’ll almost certainly be by our own hand, but that’s how it works, and the medical community has known that for decades now. Healthcare inaccessibility is a major reason why around half of us attempt suicide at least once before we’re 20, and ourΒ β€˜success’ rate at that is very much higher than any cis demographic.

So my answer would be to have thisΒ β€˜post-apocalyptic’ setting occur 20+ years in the future, where she’ll have already had an implant that indefinitely takes care of her hormone levels on its own (there are already prototypes, they should be a thing by then). Otherwise, you’d end up having to write about her suffering from dysphoria far more than you would her interacting with the setting and whatever plot you might have thought up, and as someone who isn’t a trans woman, that wouldn’t be your story to tell.

My 5 simple rules for writing trans woman characters are as follows:

1. Know cissexism like the back of your hand, both in characterization and world-building. (some links here, here, here, here, and I have plenty of results in my cissexism tag that could probe useful even if I use that tag very frequently, and here’s a good trans 101 that I generally deem as required reading for my friends)

2. Don’t write PiV sex involving trans women, and if you want pregnancy, use IVF/IUI

3. If world-building, minimize our suffering (don’t leave us without access to transition, make society less terrible to us without tokenizing the oppression we face into a single evil entity)

4. Trans characters should have some dysphoria (which cannot be fucked/loved away), because almost no trans characters in media representation have any dysphoria at all, and that’s an important and exceedingly common part of our experience that gets neglected and erased all for cis writers’ convenience

5. Humanize us as the #1 priority, because our default state of being fetishized will by default render us as an object/device to be used in a story rather than an actual person. That means not using us as a vehicle for sexual fetishes, that means not fetishizing our bodies and transitions as the primary focus of our characters.

I have a larger post with links on how to write us, how not to write us, what pitfalls to avoid, but it was created within the context of fiction with romantic/sexual elements, so the lion’s share of it probably won’t apply

So ultimately, how would a trans woman handle a post-apocalyptic scenario? Largely, much in the same way as any other woman. Any story where we don’t have access would just be transphobia, and it’d almost certainly be insultingly unrealistic. Like, I’m telling you now, if the world shifted into a post-apocalyptic state where medication would not be able to be created for us, hundreds of thousands of trans people would literally kill ourselves within a few days of each other. Such a story would be a very brief and painful one, and not one someone who isn’t one of us should write about.

Ensure there’s always, always easy access to hormones. Never let that be a plot point. There’s plenty of other things to focus on. If we haven’t had surgery, we’ll probably still be tucking. Shaving, if necessary, is still annoying, even if HRT slows growth (though it at least significantly thins out, lightens, and slows body hair growth). Dysphoria is going to be there, but HRT would likely help keep it from being overwhelming, so it’d be easier to write for cis authors. There’s still going to be transphobia from some folks if you don’tΒ β€˜pass’. etc. etc. etc. I can’t give much more specific advice without knowing what kind of post-apoc setting you’re considering, since there’s a wide range of them and all.Β 

If you have any other questions, hit me up, I’d be happy to answer them if it could help

we need more trans youth

pro-crocodiles-anti-feminism:

hellonheelys:

nabokovsshadows:

vulvacrat:

transgender-uber-alles:

i was watching the second episode of I Am Cait, and at one point caitlyn said trans people are only 0.8% of the human population. and i keep thinking that we’re such a small minority that we’ll never be taken seriously if we continue like that, if there’s not that many of us :/

parents all over the world, i beg you. if your child is afab and says they wanna try on boy clothes, please take them to a doctor so they can start testosterone shots. if your amab child says they wanna wear makeup for fun or try on girl clothes, please let them take hormone blockers and estrogen. they are completely safe. it’s essential that we build a trans empire. i bet if parents and kids are more open minded to being trans we can get transgender peope to ammount to 10-20% of the human population, and that would be awesome, because we will no longer be a weak tiny minority, we will be powerful and our voice will be heard.

this is…terrifying?

– wearing makeup for fun/trying onΒ β€˜girl clothes’ 

β‰  being a girl and does not mean medical transition is required, and vice versa

– hormone blockers, estrogen and testosterone shots aren’t safe. they fuck up the course of puberty and in some cases link to infertility. this is dangerous misinformation

Holy fuck

OP is no better than the people who send their kids to conversion camp and justify it with β€œWell little Jimmy used to love football, so maybe there’s still a chance”.

β€œI want more people to suffer from crippling body and gender dysphoria” what the fuck

you must realise this blog is a troll. it only follows terfs. and posts trans porn gifs with phrases like cis women are jealous. and parrots every damn stereotype terfs have about us being misogynists. fucking ‘trans empire’.

it costs 0$ to look at a blog before you fall for this shit. and a further 0$ to google how being a trans child works before you fall for the ‘transes are giving hormones to preteens’ bullshit.

when vulvacrat saying ‘puberty blockers can lead to infertility’ isn’t the dumbest shit on this post you know it’s fucked up right

chelldos:

chelldos:

im just here to say that equating lesbians (especially butch lesbians!) with straight men is, in any context, inherently lesbophobic and i don’t see how something that simple is apparently so difficult for some people to understand! thanks for listening have a good night

since this post blew up overnight and i’ve seen some terfs reblogging it i’d like the take this opportunity to add that equating trans lesbians (once again, especially butch trans lesbians!) with men is especially vile and if you’re a terf get the fuck off my post and go be a pointless excuse for a human being somewhere else because you’re not welcome here and never will be. bye!

Trans Women Shouldn’t Have To Constantly Defend Their Own Womanhood

bigendering:

trans-parenting:

The comments of authorΒ Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie caused a major outcry in the trans community, and this piece gives a lot of the history of whyΒ this is such a sensitive topic. While more intersectional and inclusive narratives of feminism are gradually becoming the norm, there is a 50+ year history (that still continues to this day) of feminists who exclude, delegitimize, and other transwomen.Β 

β€œNovelist and poet Kai Cheng Thom observes that β€œmale socialization, for us, is actually a coded message: β€œYou’re not who you think you are. If you try to be anything other than what we say, you’ll be punished.””

Trans Women Shouldn’t Have To Constantly Defend Their Own Womanhood

TRANS WOMEN HAVE NOT EVER BEEN SHOWN TO BE AS VIOLENT AS MEN

heartandstride:

punlich:

rambleonamazon:

bubbly-suffer-girl:

Many β€œgender critical” people on this website like to site a 2011 Swedish study to claim that trans women have the same rates of violence as cisgender men. This claim is a gross misreading and should be challenged whenever seen. Below I will be showing quotes from one of the researchers from the study showing exactly how wrong the β€œgender critical” claim is.

For starters the study found that women who transitioned from 1989-2003 did not even demonstrate a male pattern of criminality let alone anything close to the same pattern of violence. Which means that the claim of trans women being as violent as cisgender men is definitely false as a general statement for all the women who transitioned from 1989 onward.

The study as a whole covers the period between 1973 and 2003. If one divides the cohort into two groups, 1973 to 1988 and 1989 to 2003, one observes that for the latter group (1989 – 2003), differences in mortality, suicide attempts and crime disappear. This means that for the 1989 to 2003 group, we did not find a male pattern of criminality.

However we also need to look at another key distortion of the facts that the β€œgender critical” camp manufactured. Pattern of Criminality does not mean the same thing as pattern of violence. Even the trans women in the 1973-1988 group were not shown to exhibit the same rates of violence that cisgender men do. What the study actually does show is that prior to 1989 trans women were being convicted at the same rate as cisgender men, not for the same crimes.

As to the criminality metric itself, we were measuring and comparing the total number of convictions, not conviction type. We were not saying that cisgender males are convicted of crimes associated with marginalization and poverty. We didn’t control for that and we were certainly not saying that we found that trans women were a rape risk.

The idea that trans women are just as likely to rape as cis men is a lie. It is a lie which has become a central tenet of denying trans women access to life saving shelter and community and this lie needs to be confronted where ever it tries to take root. Whenever you see this lie, shine a light on it because it can only grow in the dark.

(source)

If anyone tries to claim that trans women are as violent or dangerous as men, they are lying to your face.

Considering the sheer number of trans women forced to do sex work to survive (which is still criminalized even now in 2015), being arrested and convicted of a β€œcrime” in 1989 is not a good metric for whether a group is violent.

@motherbychoice This was the article/study Jilly was using. Here’s like, more info on it (and how it’s shit).

we’ve been arrested at the same rates as men while committing far less crime. that makes more sense :/

transgirlnausicaa:

i zeriously don’t give a shit if you’re lesbian and say that you’re penis-repulsed or that you never want to have penetrative sex like obviously these are very very personal things and you have every right to dictate where your personal limits lie with regards to intimacy and sex.

like for REAL there are trans women who are penis-repulsed, who don’t want their own penis touched sexually at all (due to dysphoria or otherwise), who don’t want to have sex at all, who don’t want to have penetrative sex (receiving or giving), And of course there are also trans women who DO want all of these things…
(And there are trans women with a penis who are unable to penetrate or maintain an erection due to HRT or orchiectomy or otherwise, And there are trans women With A Fully Functioning Vagina That Is Physically Indistinguishable From An Average Cis Woman’s Vagina, but i digress…)

but the PROBLEM lies in the fact that people view trans women as a monolith! The problem lies in the fact that people assume that trans women are all just the same as the stereotype that you have built up in your minds! The stereotype of trans women as: a deceptive predatory sexually voracious straight man who will do anything to have sex with cis lesbians!

It’s not a problem for you to have your personal boundaries regarding intimacy and sex! What is a problem is when you have a malicious ideology against trans women and place your personal boundaries into this rubric. There is nothing forcing you to do that. There is nothing forcing you to apply malicious misinformation and stereotypes to trans women. There is nothing forcing you to call transgender women male, or men, or trannies, or transmale, or male-to-trans, or transwomen, (as a distinct and separate category from β€œReal” cis women!!) it is cruel and bigoted and transmisogynist for you to do these things.

However I will never concede the fact that stereotypes influence how you perceive people! And as a corollary to this fact, I can certainly say that there is transmisogyny among cis people. There IS a major phenomenon of straight men, lesbians, and bi/pan people, of any gender, viewing trans women as disgusting and ugly and undateable and To Be Avoided DUE TO STEREOTYPES AGAINST TRANS WOMEN.

This is not simply an issue that has regards to dating, obviously, it is something that informs all social interactions that other people have with trans women.

And, before you twefs jump in with β€œnot being dated isn’t oppression!” I am going to pre-empt you and state that this is a similar issue to how straight women are homophobic towards bisexual men and avoid them and refrain from socializing with them or dating them, this is a similar issue to how white women and men are racist towards black men and avoid them and refrain from socializing with them or dating them.
Not equating these issues, just pointing out that social avoidance IS a part of interpersonal oppression against marginalized groups.

My position is that stereotypes and social norms inform behavior towards trans women and you have to take responsibility for how your bigoted rhetoric impacts the people it’s leveled against.

Bi and straight radfems are allllllways talking about how disgusting trans women are and it generally seems that they don’t even have any trans women as friends let alone date them, and I can’t help but beg the question: You don’t actually truly view us as men, do you? In fact, to you, we must be something different than men because you treat us terribly different than you treat men. You treat us much worse than you treat men, which is a major failure of your supposedly self-identified man-hating agenda. Get good, frankly.

Another pre-emptive statement before someone makes an ugly and unnecessary comment: I’m engaged and have been monogamous for 7 years so this is literally not a weird ideological quest for romantic contact for me, regardless of how so-called radical feminists might twist my words.

The specter of male privilege has long since been a way to deny trans women’s womanhood and basic humanity. Invoking male privilege is often meant to imply that trans women don’t know what it is like to live as β€œreal” women β€” that we have not suffered the way other women have suffered, that we have not been disenfranchised by patriarchy because of our genders, and that our early experiences allow us access to forms of social power which influence how we move through the world even after we transition. This argument, beyond hinging all of womanhood on a relatively singular experience of suffering, has often been used to flatten the vast array of different life experiences among trans women and other transfeminine-spectrum people. At worst, it contributes to a culture of violence, harassment, exclusion, and erasure that presents a real threat to the lives and physical safety of the most marginalized among us.

Trans Women Shouldn’t Have To Constantly Defend Their Own Womanhood |Β Morgan M. Page for BuzzFeedΒ 
(via gaywrites)

This is an incredible piece, do not just read this quote and reblog and go about your day. This piece is thorough and chock full of LGBTQIPA history that needs to be understood.Β 

(via supericelight)