red hot take but debates over whether a character is gay or bi highlight how fraught that distinction is, experientially, for a lot of people
Like I really don’t think people are trying to be obtuse when they say “I think she’s bi cos she’s been with men even tho she hated it” most of the time hey I really think they’re putting that parallel with their own experience and as someone who is nearly 30 and still doesn’t know if I’m lesbian or bi I super get it, that’s all I’m saying
Tag: wlw
You could literally tell me you like me and I would still not understand
[id: a tweet from Heely Lesbian @MyDadIsOld.
“Two girls
Chillin in a hot tub
Sittin on each other’s laps because
She’s not gay right? She can’t be.
She’s just really friendly right?
Does anyone know if she’s gay?”]
Okay so we already know that Straight Boys™ are a bundle of confusion but what’s with the whole getting annoyed at their girlfriends for taking them shopping?? Why would you not want to see ur beautiful gf trying on cute clothes?? Her prancing around in a new sundress? Dead. Shaking her butt and grinning because she loves the way those jeans fit?? g o r g e o u s. Dad Shirts™ three sizes too big with dumb slogans?? Y’all will have to find my inhaler from year six cause i can’t fucking breathe.
Like if you don’t wanna take your gf shopping that’s your loss tell her to dump your dumb ass & hmu
this is a whole mood?
girls on here being like “i don’t know how to talk to women i don’t know how to get in a relationship with a woman blah blah blah” like FOOLS. You Are Woman. just do what you would want a girl to do for you and then ram her into the mattress
A top wrote this
big strap energy
gay culture is an endless loop of “you’re cute” “you’re cute” “no you” “no YOU’RE the cutest” “that’s gay” “you’re gay”
I was thinking about how you never really see older bi women portrayed or talked about in any way and how bisexuality is linked to immaturity all the time, and then thought about how this fits into the inverse stereotype of lesbians as the old unwed cat lady, and how these are both part of the same misogynist narrative: a woman is bisexual when she’s young and attractive and trying to gain male attention, and she retires as a lesbian when no man wants her. It’s all an attempt to revolve w/w attraction around men, all misogyny.
pros to hugging yer tall girlfriend:
- that physically enveloped feeling thats so warm and soft and good
- you can nuzzle into her neck for the hug depending on the duration
- her arms will 100% always be wrapped around and over you
- safe and snug
- titty:face ratio is in your favor
pros to hugging yer short girlfriend:
- yer a being of love and protection. so strong yet soft
- her arms? wrapped around your waist?? im swooning
- you get to smoosh yer face into her neck/hair hhhhhhh ❤
- KISSES ON THE CROWN OF HER HEAD HOLY MOLEY
- your titty:her face
my mom actually got me my gf cause she came up to her and started gushing about me and showed her a picture and was like ‘shes always whining about not having a girlfriend:/ and i always say honey one day the right girl will come!! heres her numer, can you tell her im right??’ and later that day the girl texted me ‘are you really such a whiny bottom that even your mom knows’ and we hooked up and got together afterwards so thanks mom youre the best
i’m screaming every single part of this is wild and it just keeps getting better
if you’re not down with wlw solidarity then you’re not down with me, & that’s that
I hope that all lesbians who once thought they were bi know that they aren’t contributing to the “bi is just a stepping stone to gay” stereotype. That stereotype was made up by straight people who refused to try to understand bisexuality. I also hope that all bi women who once thought they were lesbians know that they aren’t contributing to the “all lesbians must secretly like men” stereotype. Again, this was made up by straight people who refuse to try to understand lesbians. It’s not anyone’s responsibility in their journey of self discovery to dismantle every harmful stereotype along the way; sometimes you’re just figuring yourself out and get mixed up along the way and that’s okay. We have each other to support each other as wlw regardless of whether or not we got confused down the line at some point.
I needed this
