queerautism:

dylanisastimmykid:

Honestly? The absolute worst part of autism would have to be that getting better looks like getting worse. Let me explain. There is no recovery with autism. It’s just part of you, that’s all. But neurotypicals and society at large force autistic people to try and fit in as much as possible. Don’t stim, don’t use echolalia, speak how we want you to, etc. etc. The way that you grow as an autistic person and avoid depression and anxiety and other negative side effects of autism is by giving those expectations the finger and being your true autistic self. But…this becomes a predicament. The people around you see you stimming more, speaking less, using echolalia more, whatever it may be, and they think you’re getting “worse.”

I’m gonna use myself as an example.

I’ve always appeared more neurotypical than many autistic people because that’s what I was forced to do growing up. I got really depressed and suicidal. I never let my autistic behaviors out and I got depressed. Holding in your autism, your true personality, will do that. Then, I started stimming more. Some stimming at school, a little stimming in public, lots of stimming by myself. I started to let myself avoid eye contact and be okay with that. I got less depressed. I got less suicidal. But, now I was visibly autistic, and therefore it looked to everyone else like my mental health must be getting worse. But it wasn’t. Those things that looked like me getting worse were actually me getting better and being myself.

The reason this is on my mind is that I’ve kind of reached a plateau in my recovery from the bad stuff in that now that I’ve had a taste of what being my true autistic self is like, I want it all. I’ve been stimming in front of people, but that’s starting to not be enough. I want to talk how I need to, I want to do my verbal stims, I want full body stims, not just my hands, but that’s another big step that’s gonna look like I’m getting worse and that, more than anything, is gonna get me a lot of judgement. Fidgety hands and mild bouncing aren’t tooooo weird or noticeable. Vocal stims, stomping, walking on the balls of my feet, being semi verbal, all that stuff…that’s what I need. That’s what I need to feel comfortable. But, the more autistic you appear, the “sicker” everybody thinks you are, when really, that’s what’s healthy for autistic people.

I guess what I’m getting at is that I just want to exist as my true autistic self without fear of judgement. More specifically, without causing people concern or even having people notice.

!!!! I feel this so so hard

auntbutch:

people have been debating the political efficacy and ethical concerns of using the word “queer” as a self-identifier, unifying term to describe populations, and/or theoretical framework for decades. these debates are not about two sides, where one side thinks it’s great and the other thinks it’s terrible and everybody in either camp agrees with everybody else in their camp. larry kramer’s argument against the use of “queer” is not at all the same as cathy j. cohen’s critique of queer theory and queer activism and their deployment of “queer”. similarly, the way that michael warner imagines the applications of “queer” is not the same as how karen barad uses “queer” to describe natural phenomena. the way that queer as folk invokes “queer” in its title is different than how the office invokes “queer” as an insult. “smear the queer” uses the word differently than “we’re here, we’re queer”. it’s a difficult word, largely by design when it comes to contemporary applications/reclamations. 

any simplistic single history of the word “queer” or of feelings about the word “queer” is already a failure, not only in terms of accuracy, but also just in understanding of how people have come to conceive of “queer” as a thing that cannot be pinned down, easily defined or made stable. whether or not you agree what that understanding, to not include that aspect of the word in your attempt to theorize around it is an unforgivable blind spot. “queer” is complicated, it has multiple histories and meanings, and not accounting for that, especially when talking as if you’re an expert on the issue, is an enormous failure. lgbtq people have rich and complex histories and cultures. if you’re not willing to account for that, then get out of the business of trying to tell our stories. 

the app updated and i can get the colourful text now so im asking u to not use it please. my eyes are weak and i can’t read it. at all. there’s no opt out so i’ll have to wind back to an earlier app if this becomes a Whole Thing. if this becomes the new meme. or remember to tag it as eye strain i guess