every time someone says that any homophobic slur isn’t aimed at trans women regardless of orientation i feel like i age a billion years
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het trans ppl aren’t queer
het ace ppl aren’t queer
het intersex ppl aren’t queer
het nobody is queer they are literally opposing concepts
I don’t like this idea but I’m having a hard time articulating why r/n I’ll get back to it later.
Yeah I think I got this now.
This positions the western colonially-derived concept of gayness as the only true queerness and only conditionally permits other forms of queerness which do not abide by that western colonial framework.
This segments and disenfranchises hetero trans women whom I should not have to explain to you are being murdered by the dozen ON THIS DAY OF ALL DAYS. Does that not sound like marginalization to you? The more I think about this the angrier I get.
I mean it’s a fuckin trope to bring it up but there were plenty of man loving trans women fighting at stonewall. Is that not queer enough for you? I’m really growing ever more disgusted with this exclusionary process.
The whole point of the narrative of queerness is to be liberating. Revolutionary and destructive to the order of patriarchy, heteronormativity, cisnormativity, to break open the neat airtight containers and allow movement and the freedom to self-position, to self-define, and that cannot be accomplished with this kind of resistance to change.
Does someone who is transgender and attracted to another gender not experience the kind of abuses that we do as trans lesbians? Do they not experience violence, do they not experience being bludgoned with slurs, do they not experience being taught to loathe their own body for not meeting an impossible standard? Do they not experience the violation of bodily integrity which comes with an unwanted puberty?
Do intersex people not experience a kind of violation of bodily integrity as well? Do they not experience stigmatization and the pressure to conceal what and who they are, the reality of their body and the effect that has on their identity?
Do asexual people not go for years believing that they are fundamentally broken, as we go through years believing the same about ourselves?
Why do you want to hand the keys to the fucking kingdom to the very cisgay motherfuckers who would kick YOUR ASS out of the movement in a hot second, autogynephile? Like, love yourself, goddess almighty.
Jesus fucking Christ the longer it goes on the worse it gets
I mean, at least they’re finally being honest…
Call it a controversial observation BUT I don’t think Kimberle Crenshaw introduced intersectionality and privilege theory so yaw could play these little Regina George style identity turf war reindeer games every time you feel bitter about another axis getting increased visibility.
Just putting that out there.
anyway i hope that my fellow lesbians are mostly past the sentiment that dating bi girls immediately implies a ‘tangential relationship to men.’
because you don’t know the dating history of every single bi girl on the planet, so you’re making ugly generalizations about a group of women who have, throughout our history, stood by our side and who face struggles similar to ours. like yes, men are fucking awful, and as lesbians we face horrible and often violent lesbophobia from men, but that isn’t on bi girls, it’s not their responsibility and it’s not their fault, and to write off other wlw simply because of their ***potential*** past or future choice of partners (again, you don’t know fuck all about who bi women are dating, who they will date, whether they have a preference for men or women, etc, and even if you did, it doesn’t fucking matter) is ugly and biphobic and yes it does contribute to the specific struggles bi women face, like higher rates of intimate partner violence. writing bi girls off as people who are just susceptible to men’s violence by virtue of being attracted to them and blaming them for whatever happens to them due to this is victim blaming and ugly, and we need to fucking do better than this.
so no. most lesbians aren’t ~wary~ of dating bi girls. biphobes don’t get to speak for the rest of us who would rather stand in solidarity with our bi sisters than speak over them and play identity politics.
Absolutely, and you don’t know the dating history of lesbians too which can also include men, I know it does for me. Relationships either last or they don’t, and so in general focusing on past and future relationships in any context is so unhealthy for your current one. Great post.
this is also a good point! i didn’t want to get into the gold star bullshit bc a) this was a positivity post for bi girls and b) if i got started on that mess i’d be here for hours but yes!
If a society puts half its children into short skirts and warns them not to move in ways that reveal their panties, while putting the other half into jeans and overalls and encouraging them to climb trees, play ball, and participate in other vigorous outdoor games; if later, during adolescence, the children who have been wearing trousers are urged to “eat like growing boys,” while the children in skirts are warned to watch their weight and not get fat; if the half in jeans runs around in
sneakers or boots, while the half in skirts totters about on spike heels, then these two groups of people will be biologically as well as socially different. Their muscles will be different, as will their reflexes, posture, arms, legs and feet, hand-eye coordination, and so on. (…)There is no way to sort the biological and social components that produce these differences. We cannot sort nature from nurture when we confront group differences in societies in which people from different races, classes, and sexes do not have equal access to resources and power, and therefore live in different environments.
Ruth Hubbard, The Political Nature of “Human Nature” (via philosophy-lesbian)
Cars Fanfic Author Problems:
- “Wait a minute can they even do this they’re freaking cars”
- You start to write something about ears or hands and then you remember like “…oh wait-”
- getting anxious about putting human food in a scene so you just say oil to make it less conflicting
- C A R H U G S …
- “THEY’VE GESTURED WITH THEIR TIRES LIKE TEN TIMES ALREADY DO SOMETHING ELSE YOU STUPID VEHICLES LIKE I LOVE YOU BUT PLEASE MAKE IT EASIER FOR ME”
- unsure about how to make a scene more dynamic cause the characters can really only just sit there talking to each other
- “IS. LIGHTNING. MCQUEEN. OOC. I SWEAR HE’S OOC IN THIS SCENE”
- Or, alternatively: “IS ANYONE IN-CHARACTER IN THIS SCENE OH GOD I DON’T KNOW THIS SERIES AT ALL DO I I’M HORRIBLE”
- “wait do they even have windshield wipers”
- “how far can they stretch their axles out like arms omg this must read so awkward”
- when you have to write Mater’s dialogue and you start to say it out loud in the Larry the Cable Guy voice cause good God how do you write that voice properly (i.e. occasional horrid grammar and/or catchphrases)
- *incoherent screaming about car anatomy*
- “Okay would McQueen really cry here no he’d hold it in- but wait a second wouldn’t it be more powerful if he broke down here- alright listen up here-”
- “OKAY IS IT THE ENGINE OR THE BATTERY THAT’S THE HEART I’M SO CONFUSED AND I’M THE ONE WRITING IT”
i’ve never been more baffled by any single post on this website and i’ve been here for four years
Cars fanfic is a thing which I both somehow knew must exist and at the same time was perfectly happy never acknowledging the existence of.
content-wise, this is the least relatable post i’ve seen in weeks
and yet somehow i feel like i ghostwrote it because op’s frustration at writing is universal
listen either finn is gonna get w/ rey (interracial couple in a prominent film franchise, still relatively uncommon in modern media) or finn is gonna get w/ rose (interracial couple consisting of two people of color in a prominent film franchise, even LESS common in modern media) or finn is gonna get w/ poe (interracial QUEER couple consisting of two men of color in a prominent film franchise, unquestionably groundbreaking) so like, no matter who finn winds up with romantically, it’s all good, it’s all important from a representation standpoint, u can all have ur ship wars but i am excited to see who our lord and savior finn chooses and will support him no matter what
Wouldn’t it be cool if lgbp aces & aros were acknowledged by the community we’re ostensibly supposed to be a part of as more than rhetorical devices/weapons to bring out against the Her Ace/Aro invasion
Like remember when lgbp aces were talking about how over sexualized and therefore inaccessible a lot of safe spaces were and were told they were homophobic and disrespecting their own history
Remember when aro lgbp people were told that their very existence is the cause of nonstraight people being oversexualized
I’m exhausted and tired
I made exactly this post months ago and I can’t tell you how mad I’m getting that lgbp aces and aros are still having to point this out. All these people were nowhere to be found when people were saying bi aro women are responsible for the hypersexualization of bi women. That argument has shown up again with plenty of ace/aro groups, and no one says a word. Non-ace/non-aro people just fucking disperse when it comes to actually defending us, but want points for taking ten seconds out of ignoring our existence to shit on a specific group of ace/aro people.
Seriously though when aphobes say cake jokes are cringy or that we “stole” dragons, they’re trying to make it so a-specs feel like we can’t or shouldn’t have light-hearted representations of ourselves. And then they say that more serious positivity is “discourse.” If we play by their rules, we don’t get anything positive at all. If we play by their rules, the only context we or anyone else sees us in is “debates” about whether we have any right to exist.
We’re people, dammit. We’re not invaders or boogeymen or evil “apologists” or whatever the propaganda of the day says. We get to make jokes and be nice to each other and eat desserts and do fun things. We get to be happy or cute and present ourselves as such, if we want, because we are, we’re allowed to be that, we’re not bad, we’re not some horrific danger that has to agree to a muzzle to be let into anything and we should resist attempts to portray us as such.
We exist. We are people. We are allowed to be people. I’m going to take my cake and ice cream and dragons and words and I’m going to be happy and queer and you can’t stop me.
If you think 12 year olds are too young for tattoos but can decide on hormone therapy, there is something wrong with you.
^^^^^
If you think a picture on your body for cosmetic reasons and life-saving medication for a serious medical condition are in any way comparable, there is something wrong with you.
Furthermore, no 12 year old goes on hormone therapy. They go on puberty blockers once puberty kicks in, which does nothing more than delay puberty and has been found by studies to be safe, extremely helpful to transgender children, and completely reversible should the child not go through with transition. It buys them time so they can make the decision once they’re older.
When you advocate against transgender teenagers going on puberty blockers, you advocate for more transgender teen suicides.
These are necessary and often live-saving treatments for very distressing medical conditions. Stop comparing them to something as unnecessary as fucking tattoos.
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