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dandymeowth:

fetus-cakes:

the-ace-community:

fetus-cakes:

the-ace-community:

fetus-cakes:

I thought I had made it clear that I think ace (asexual and aromantic and everyone within that spectrum) are queer and they belong in the QUILTBAG community and Pride.
If I’ve ever given the impression that they aren’t or that I’m not for inclusion, then it was a mistake.

 cishets aren’t queer. bye

So I went to your “about” and 

  • Acephobia does not exist as a system of oppression.

….sure thing buddy

aphobia isnt a form of systematic oppression. that’s literally just a fact.

ace discrimination does exist. but systematic oppression? nope!

gotta disagree with you on that one, as doctors and psychologists considered asexuality to be a mental illness until recently, and many of them still do. If you don’t consider doctors saying that your orientation is a disease to be systemic oppression then I don’t know what to tell you 

Friendly reminder that user the-ace-community is cis and perisex and thinks kicking TERFs out of LGBT+ spaces is lesbophobic and also thinks intersex people aren’t LGBT+ and don’t belong (here’s why that’s wrong). 

This is what we mean when we say cis “exclusionists” need to stop using the term “cishets” in the discourse. Cis people aren’t your oppressors, as cis people tend to you frequently side with transphobia, and overall you need to stop acting like you get to decide whether cis people are safe, you need to stop saying “cishets are invading” like cis people are your problem too.

Like the whole keysmash acronym shit (ex “LGBTKISD(@$SDLK++”) was literally invented by cishets who think there’s only straight and gay, nothing else, not even trans or intersex. It’s frequently used by TERFs and anti-sj, even truscum. Cis gays aren’t being sneaky at all about their REAL intentions when they insist on doing this same fucking thing. 

(Not that all discourse isn’t already recycled TERF/anti-sj/cishet bullshit, this is just another example of it.)

Also QUILTBAG+ has been in use since before tumblr existed and its purpose was to make the acronym more accessible iirc, and I’d primarily seen mspec and nonbinary people using it.

And U for Undecided is meant the same as Q for Questioning, it’s not something radically new and about “choosing to be LGBT+”. Also “choice” politics are shit so let’s avoid them.

Also just because it was changed recently doesn’t mean it isn’t still viewed as a disease and the fact that the change is “unless they’re ok with it then they’re asexual” doesn’t really de-pathologize it, because it’s ignoring the fact society at large tells them there’s something wrong with them. This also is hilarious to assert considering all the discoursers on this post think teaching about asexuality is bad. So how are they supposed to wind up as being okay with it if you constantly assert it’s not okay, if you refuse to give them the words and concepts that let them know it’s okay?

Also homo/queerphobia isn’t over because we have more marital rights so how does “well they fixed this one thing so acephobia isn’t a problem anymore” make any sense.

QUILTBAG? MOGAI? Queer? actual words the human tongue can make mid-conversation? absolute rubbish. we need el-gee-bee-tee-pee-en. there’s a 6 syllable minimum

flirting-with-psychology:

writing-prompt-s:

The world population just doubled overnight when everybody just woke up with a clone of themselves.

Ok but with the rate it’s increasing, how long until it does double overnight?

every human capable of childbirth has to be pregnant with about 3-5 children and all give birth at the same time. very unlikely

or we leave a lot of cloning machines running all night

makingqueerhistory:

Sophia Parnok, Russia’s Sappho

For our last article in this year’s women’s history month celebration we focus on a woman known throughout Russia as one of their first openly lesbian poets. Sophia Parnok was a Jewish poet born in Russia in 1885 and has grown a small reputation for being one of the first out lesbian poets in her home country. Though her work is not widespread, it is impactful. And while the government tried to curb that impact with censorship, today we will work to continue to spread that effect by sharing her story. (Read full article here)

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missvoltairine:

bisexualpiratequeen:

bisexualpiratequeen:

Once
a boy looked very sadly at me after a little bit of conversation.
‘you’re so smart’ he said, ‘I feel like I couldn’t keep up’. And then he
did that sad boy face where you’re supposed to agree to tone yourself
down. So I said ‘probably’ and fucked his mate.

some top advice from a slut, here, 90% of the time when some boy looks sad and tells you you’re too ‘x’ to keep up with it’s a ploy to get you to cut bits off yourself so you can come down to his mediocre level; instead, agree with him and fuck his mate

I am a slut
Wen on a dayte
With Boye who would
Manipulate
I’m not sway’d by
His saddened state-
I say okay
I fuck his mayte

thislesbianthatlesbian:

thislesbianthatlesbian:

if you’re a trans lesbian and you’re reading this, you deserve the world. twerfs are gross and you are 100% a woman-born-woman, and a lesbian. nothing about you is male. you’re a woman, and you belong in the lesbian community. no twerf can change that fact.

-mod key

btw this is a post that you are welcome to reblog even if you aren’t a lesbian!! please reblog!!

dissociacetion:

edgebug:

“how can you be intimate with someone if you’re aromantic??”

sharing secrets, trusting them with your life, telling them about that stupid thing you did when you were 14 and haven’t told anyone else since, being there for them any time day or night, talking til three in the morning, letting yourself cry around them, sharing grief, sharing joy, getting excited about the things they’re excited about just because you love to see them so happy about something

an aro positivity post 😭😭😭 that lists ways to be intimate with someone 😭😭😭 that doesn’t alienate the touch averse 😭😭😭 and people with no/low empathy 😭😭😭

ecreblog:

crixa:

clitemoji:

“mogai tumblr made it hard to figure out my gender/sexuality when first coming out”

consider: You don’t have to have a vendetta against queers with the “weird” genders and sexualities, especially teenagers, because you used to consider yourself one of them

also consider: the answer to “my identity was hard to figure out” is not to make it harder for other people. erasing other people’s identities will not make your own more visible. MOGAI people actually quite often find it helpful to have words for their identities, like yourself, and everyone else in the world

also consider: your anger is misdirected. heteronormativity hurt you several billion times more than the split attraction model ever could. No one who IDs as frostgender has the social capital to gaslight and coerce children from birth into a gender. straight and cis people are 100% to blame for the shame we’re made to feel for our identities and placing blame on young queers achieves nothing but furthering that shame. there is no good political goal that can be achieved by bullying mogais you nasty fucks

*Points a knife at you*
Consider: Very few people who don’t apply the split attraction model to themselves will say “no one should use this.” What we are saying is that in many cases it is used by SGA people to deny their sexualities and it is encouraged in MOGAI Tumblr land to identify as, say, a heteroromantic bisexual if you can’t see yourself living romantically with someone of the same gender but you can see yourself having sex with them. Rather than address possible internalised homophobia, y’all would have people conclude that that kind of attitude is always 100% healthy
Also consider: Speaking on personal bad experiences with identity labels is not “erasing” identities
Also consider: You can be angry about multiple things at once

Okay but just going to say that different romantic and sexual alignments are not some kind of internalized homophobia? Like yeah that COULD be involved but love and sex are not like. .. inherent to each other? You don’t need one for the other at all and your attractions there don’t always line up.

They’re two separate things you can’t control at all. You can’t control what gender(s) you love and you can’t control what gender (s) you’re sexually attracted to.

A lot of the time people are romantically attracted to who they’re sexually attracted to, but there are a lot of ways that gets changed up. Like you can be aromantic, but pansexual. Or biromantic but asexual. You can like women sexually but not romantically while simultaneously liking men romantically but not sexually.

It’s just what it is. It’s not a choice people make, it’s just what they feel. Sure, some situations can be internalized homophobia, but to say that’s such a pervasive aspect that it must always be questioned is denying validity to people who have different sexual and romantic desires.

crixa’s response is just straight up denying the hundreds of exclusionist blogs trying to claim SAM is nothing but homophobia and literally attacking people who use it for themselves

there is no war in ba sing se, right

mean-and-gay:

clitemoji:

mean-and-gay:

clitemoji:

“mogai tumblr made it hard to figure out my gender/sexuality when first coming out”

consider: You don’t have to have a vendetta against queers with the “weird” genders and sexualities, especially teenagers, because you used to consider yourself one of them

also consider: the answer to “my identity was hard to figure out” is not to make it harder for other people. erasing other people’s identities will not make your own more visible. MOGAI people actually quite often find it helpful to have words for their identities, like yourself, and everyone else in the world

also consider: your anger is misdirected. heteronormativity hurt you several billion times more than the split attraction model ever could. No one who IDs as frostgender has the social capital to gaslight and coerce children from birth into a gender. straight and cis people are 100% to blame for the shame we’re made to feel for our identities and placing blame on young queers achieves nothing but furthering that shame. there is no good political goal that can be achieved by bullying mogais you nasty fucks

anyways i was convinced that i was some fun variety of mixed up confusing terms when in reality i was so fucking self conscious i couldnt even fantasize abt other people being attracted to me. instead of, like, working on self image i just told myself i was lithosexual and ignored the very harmful effects that this had on my self image and self esteem.

and i’m really glad, it sounds like you’re in a much better place now! but from your tone and shit exclusionist blog I’m realising this was an attempt to disprove me? when you just said this was all the cause of your own low self esteem. it’s right there. so do you think lithosexuals are to blame for your self esteem issues, or do you want to read the post again until it clicks in?

Nope, it’s because instead of being able to healthily work through very natural feelings that would make a lot of sense, I was given reasons to ignore integral parts of my identity and problems in development. That’s the way I see it at least idk

so… you’re attacking identities because you used them as a harmful coping mechanism. and you’re idk, just pretending a-spec identities can never be helpful to anyone because they weren’t helpful for you?

not my business, just imho u should be working on this kind of resentment with a professional and not with a discourse blog

i told myself I was genderfluid for years before knowing I was a trans girl but somehow I resist the urge to attack that community? do you think I should? bc im damn sure they weren’t the reason I was hiding bits of myself in the first place. it sure wasn’t them keeping me in the closet to myself. there isn’t a mogai plot to give depression to closeted young queers, for fuck’s sake

allophobics:

clitemoji:

“mogai tumblr made it hard to figure out my gender/sexuality when first coming out”

consider: You don’t have to have a vendetta against queers with the “weird” genders and sexualities, especially teenagers, because you used to consider yourself one of them

also consider: the answer to “my identity was hard to figure out” is not to make it harder for other people. erasing other people’s identities will not make your own more visible. MOGAI people actually quite often find it helpful to have words for their identities, like yourself, and everyone else in the world

also consider: your anger is misdirected. heteronormativity hurt you several billion times more than the split attraction model ever could. No one who IDs as frostgender has the social capital to gaslight and coerce children from birth into a gender. straight and cis people are 100% to blame for the shame we’re made to feel for our identities and placing blame on young queers achieves nothing but furthering that shame. there is no good political goal that can be achieved by bullying mogais you nasty fucks

also, the mentality that “evil mogais forced me to identify as stargender and repressed my identity” is so … off-base? since p much everyone i’ve met with a “mogai” identity or shares a similar mindset/attitude is 100% supportive of and acknowledges the occasional necessity of changing how you identify?

like the whole “pick an identity and Stay There and if you change you’re Disgusting and Wrong and Shameful” is much more a mainstay of proponents of respectability politics (eg. regs, gatekeepers, truscum, and the like) who Hate mogai identities so in all reality, it would have been holdovers from those groups that hurt you, not experimenting with your identity