i zeriously don’t give a shit if you’re lesbian and say that you’re penis-repulsed or that you never want to have penetrative sex like obviously these are very very personal things and you have every right to dictate where your personal limits lie with regards to intimacy and sex.
like for REAL there are trans women who are penis-repulsed, who don’t want their own penis touched sexually at all (due to dysphoria or otherwise), who don’t want to have sex at all, who don’t want to have penetrative sex (receiving or giving), And of course there are also trans women who DO want all of these things…
(And there are trans women with a penis who are unable to penetrate or maintain an erection due to HRT or orchiectomy or otherwise, And there are trans women With A Fully Functioning Vagina That Is Physically Indistinguishable From An Average Cis Woman’s Vagina, but i digress…)but the PROBLEM lies in the fact that people view trans women as a monolith! The problem lies in the fact that people assume that trans women are all just the same as the stereotype that you have built up in your minds! The stereotype of trans women as: a deceptive predatory sexually voracious straight man who will do anything to have sex with cis lesbians!
It’s not a problem for you to have your personal boundaries regarding intimacy and sex! What is a problem is when you have a malicious ideology against trans women and place your personal boundaries into this rubric. There is nothing forcing you to do that. There is nothing forcing you to apply malicious misinformation and stereotypes to trans women. There is nothing forcing you to call transgender women male, or men, or trannies, or transmale, or male-to-trans, or transwomen, (as a distinct and separate category from “Real” cis women!!) it is cruel and bigoted and transmisogynist for you to do these things.
However I will never concede the fact that stereotypes influence how you perceive people! And as a corollary to this fact, I can certainly say that there is transmisogyny among cis people. There IS a major phenomenon of straight men, lesbians, and bi/pan people, of any gender, viewing trans women as disgusting and ugly and undateable and To Be Avoided DUE TO STEREOTYPES AGAINST TRANS WOMEN.
This is not simply an issue that has regards to dating, obviously, it is something that informs all social interactions that other people have with trans women.
And, before you twefs jump in with “not being dated isn’t oppression!” I am going to pre-empt you and state that this is a similar issue to how straight women are homophobic towards bisexual men and avoid them and refrain from socializing with them or dating them, this is a similar issue to how white women and men are racist towards black men and avoid them and refrain from socializing with them or dating them.
Not equating these issues, just pointing out that social avoidance IS a part of interpersonal oppression against marginalized groups.My position is that stereotypes and social norms inform behavior towards trans women and you have to take responsibility for how your bigoted rhetoric impacts the people it’s leveled against.
Bi and straight radfems are allllllways talking about how disgusting trans women are and it generally seems that they don’t even have any trans women as friends let alone date them, and I can’t help but beg the question: You don’t actually truly view us as men, do you? In fact, to you, we must be something different than men because you treat us terribly different than you treat men. You treat us much worse than you treat men, which is a major failure of your supposedly self-identified man-hating agenda. Get good, frankly.
Another pre-emptive statement before someone makes an ugly and unnecessary comment: I’m engaged and have been monogamous for 7 years so this is literally not a weird ideological quest for romantic contact for me, regardless of how so-called radical feminists might twist my words.
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my fave use of color in comics is this fucking laser jet printed pdf of superman #1 i have where the printer just fucked up and the entire thing is the trans flag
trans agenda: deleting all yellow and black from the CMYK colour system
“I don’t think I could handle having a mentally ill child”
“I don’t think I can handle having a physically handicapped child”
“I don’t think I could handle having a trans child”
“I don’t think I could handle having a gay child”
“I don’t think I could han-”THEN👏 DON’T👏 HAVE👏 A👏 CHILD👏 👏 👏
The specter of male privilege has long since been a way to deny trans women’s womanhood and basic humanity. Invoking male privilege is often meant to imply that trans women don’t know what it is like to live as “real” women — that we have not suffered the way other women have suffered, that we have not been disenfranchised by patriarchy because of our genders, and that our early experiences allow us access to forms of social power which influence how we move through the world even after we transition. This argument, beyond hinging all of womanhood on a relatively singular experience of suffering, has often been used to flatten the vast array of different life experiences among trans women and other transfeminine-spectrum people. At worst, it contributes to a culture of violence, harassment, exclusion, and erasure that presents a real threat to the lives and physical safety of the most marginalized among us.
Trans Women Shouldn’t Have To Constantly Defend Their Own Womanhood | Morgan M. Page for BuzzFeedÂ
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This is an incredible piece, do not just read this quote and reblog and go about your day. This piece is thorough and chock full of LGBTQIPA history that needs to be understood.Â
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also @ other radfems
what are your thoughts on trans people using the bathroom they pass in? personally i would be okay with a passing tw in the womens room because if they look to be female (size, bone structure, mannerisms, etc) it seems like there is a way smaller chance that they have weird intentions and a way higher chance that they just want to pee without being harassed themselves in the mens room. i start being uncomfortable when people that are clearly “male” or “manly” want to come in the womens room when their presence is obviously intimidating. same with a passing trans man, if they look super manly and i thought they were male i would be uncomfortable seeing them in the ladies room.
thoughts?
EFF u on not touching because trans women aside this is EFFing horrible and a great big ole elitist slam against GNC women that don’t have passing privilege!
Wow you’re garbage.
How does someone say they want to abolish gender yet they straight up say they feel uncomfortable going to the bathroom with someone that doesn’t look like the same gender as them according to society???
tag yourself i’m “female bone structure” because fuck anyone who dares to transition as an adult
i’m “trans activists not giving a fuck about female safety”
i’m ‘deciding how dangerous a trans woman is by her size, bone structure and mannerisms’ you disgusting fuck? do u think my bone structure makes me dangerous? am i more dangerous if i don’t shave my legs, what about my looks is possibly making me more or less dangerous?
sorry butch women but the ladies room says ‘you must be this conventionally feminine to enter’ 
teacher: gives me literally any essay assignment
me: i hope u like communism bitch
Lakoff argues that the very things career
coaches advise women to cut out of their speech are actually signs of
highly evolved communication. When we use words like so, I guess, like, actually, and I mean,
we are sending signals to the listener to help them figure out what’s
new, what’s important, or what’s funny. We’re connecting with them.
“Rather than being weakeners or signs of fuzziness of mind, as is often
said, they create cohesion and coherence between what speaker and hearer
together need to accomplish — understanding and sharing,” Lakoff says.
“This is the major job of an articulate social species. If women use
these forms more, it is because we are better at being human.”Language is not always about making an argument or conveying information in the cleanest, simplest way possible. It’s often about building relationships.
A quote from the article “Can We Just Like, Get Over the Way Women Talk?” which is worth reading in full.
Pauline Hanson has used the recent terror attack against London to start the hashtag #Pray4MuslimBan. There’s nothing satirical there. She’s a leach. She’s an opportunistic cruel racist. Her brand of politics is the equivalent of a personified vulture swooping down on the victims of a tragedy to caw out racist tirades. Here’s a suggestion: #Pray4PaulineToFuckOff
I am beyond fucking annoyed that narcissa wright was finally trolled into deleting her twitch account. she was doing so well swimming upstream in a transphobic Boy’s Club subcommunity for so long, and now that girl has no income. one of the most skilled speedrunners on the planet comes out as trans and is chased out of a job, but I can guarantee you that if any bigname cis male streamer was outed as a sex offender tomorrow, thousands would rush to their defense. why is being trans grounds for backlash and punishment and losing everything in almost any scenario? people being antagonistic online just for the sake of hurting another person is something I’ve come to expect and accept as a universal and unchangeable constant but what I’ll never understand is……why?
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