regularblogstuff:

whatkindofbigotisthis:

was this post about
A. nonbinary people
B. transgender people in general
C. bisexuals
D. asexuals

E. people of color

I know this is supposed to be about aces but u gotta understand, as a poc I know this type of rhetoric wayy too well

Concept: if you have to prove you’re oppressed rather than discriminated against or even disliked, you’re not

clitemoji:

trib-my-chinz:

sanghyuksjaw:

clitemoji:

“the SEX in HOMOSEXUALITY refers to biological sex”

buddy…. …. sex is a verb

amongst humans it should only ever be a verb. u should ask yourself why u want to say ‘Females’ when ‘women’ suffices. lmao keep your animal husbandry terms the fuck away from me, satan

sex is a verb and a noun. why are you lying? i don’t want to say “females,” i’m forced to because if i just say “women” you will act like i’m talking about males as well.

Did this person seriously never take a basic science class in grade school lmao “sex is a verb” my ass.

buddy. i did. science defines male and female as sperm producers and egg producers. are we going to pretend​ that’s like, okay? u don’t think ‘woman’ should apply to humans as an infinitely more respectful term than producer of ova

‘this person criticises fucking highschool biology? obviously they haven’t read it the education system is flawless and unbiased’

see i was taught growing up that calling a woman a female is a one-way ticket to getting slapped. it’s well documented as a misogynist microaggression. it’s the language red-pillers are using to dehumanise women.

i’m not saying we must rewrite all medical literature. i’m just saying, i should be able to tell the difference between MRAs using misogynist language and TERFs using trans-exclusive language. i can’t believe i even have to type this but calling women female outside of medicine has always, always been a mark of disrespect in the english speaking world

also…. adjective. it’s meant to be a fucking adjective like in ‘female human’ are you straight up saying Females? like ‘that female over there’? that’s disgusting language. do u call ur mother a female? i haven’t heard ‘a truly inspiring female’ ever. or do u say woman like people who don’t sound like a 19th century misogynist but you know just keep defending your right to sound hideously off putting

trib-my-chinz:

sanghyuksjaw:

clitemoji:

“the SEX in HOMOSEXUALITY refers to biological sex”

buddy…. …. sex is a verb

amongst humans it should only ever be a verb. u should ask yourself why u want to say ‘Females’ when ‘women’ suffices. lmao keep your animal husbandry terms the fuck away from me, satan

sex is a verb and a noun. why are you lying? i don’t want to say “females,” i’m forced to because if i just say “women” you will act like i’m talking about males as well.

Did this person seriously never take a basic science class in grade school lmao “sex is a verb” my ass.

buddy. i did. science defines male and female as sperm producers and egg producers. are we going to pretend​ that’s like, okay? u don’t think ‘woman’ should apply to humans as an infinitely more respectful term than producer of ova

hello children

sapphickpop:

a lot of young teen lesbians on tumblr r aligning with the terf ideology without knowing properly what it stands for. so as an Older Lesbian with some 6 years of Being Out Experience i wanna clarify some things for you.

nobody is forcing you to be attracted to anyone

nobody is saying that if you aren’t attracted to [insert a trans woman name], you’re automatically transphobic and a terf. nobody is saying you have to have sex with trans girls if you aren’t attracted to them. just as nobody is saying you have to be attracted to every cis woman. and nobody is saying you have to have sex with gay girls you aren’t attracted to.

we are only asking you to respect trans women as women

and that’s really the least you could do! trans women (trans lesbians and wlw in particular) are just other girls out here trying to survive in this hetero world. and it’s hard being a lesbian already – but being a trans lesbian is so much harder. don’t make these girls feel even more alienated, don’t contribute to the hate that is turned against them. 

“but i don’t wanna have sex with someone with a penis”

if you end up never sleeping with anyone w a penis, that’s okay. being a lesbian isn’t just about who you have sex with. it’s also about who you love, who you’re attracted to and who you date. and one day you might find yourself falling in love with a trans girl. 

if that happens, just like in any relationship, you can negotiate your limits in sex. there’s no point in saying “i am not attracted to trans women” – because it makes it seem like trans women are inherently so much different from cis women, makes you sound like you think all trans women look/are the same and like you think of women as walking genitals. which is pretty misogynist! 

so please just don’t listen to terfs. protect your trans sisters because they need it and they will always be there to support you if you support them too. 

there’s TERFs in the notes of this trying to explain ‘penis privilege’ as ‘no one is trying to legislate against penises’.

trans women’s penises are absolutely legislated against. bottom surgery in many places is legally mandated for trans women to be recognised as women. A few states in Australia tried to change the law just a few months ago but was shot down by conservatives. globally, it is the norm for psychiatrists and gatekeepers to only ever allow hormones and even legal name changes to trans women who are dead set on bottom surgery in the future. bottom surgery, in most countries is very rarely covered by health insurance and usually costs $20-30k AUD. This is a measure designed to do two things: uphold the sex binary and keep trans women poor. Sex work is often the only way a trans woman can make that money in a lifetime because we’re locked out of most workplaces. ‘penis privilege’ is a statement that can only come from someone who knows absolutely nothing about trans women and how the patriarchy treats us. please google how legislation affects us next time

earthmoonlotus:

earthmoonlotus:

Real talk, I haven’t seen any inclusionists actually support that post that was talking about socially anxious people who are afraid of PoC supposedly not being racist. Yes, that post was trash. It’s definitely racist to be afraid of PoC as a white person (even if your fear is connected to mental illness; mental illness doesn’t excuse racism). But like…exclusionists act like most inclusionists supported that post, when in reality that’s simply not the case.

Like, it reminds me of that time when a minor made a really terrible post about the AIDS crisis and how ace people were supposedly wise for not having sex and gay people should have “listened” to them…and both inclusionists and excusionists called it out (and the op eventually apologized and deleted their blog), but exclusionists kept framing it as something all or most inclusionists would agree with.

this is the post I’m talking about, just for reference.

Want to stop trans murders?

smartassjen:

Want to stop trans murders?

Stop shaming men who like us, stop calling them gay when they’re not, stop watching dudes play us on screen.

Yes, it’s actually a deeply complicated and nearly intractable set of issues at the dangerous intersection of race, class, homophobia, misogyny, and economics, but the thing that most people can DO, right now, no matter who or where they are, is really that simple: stop shaming the men who like us, stop letting us be portrayed by men.

After years of thinking on this issue, listening to survivors of assault, reading the reports, talking to countless trans women/sex workers, that’s the heart of this. Straight men kill trans women partners because other people, and culture as a whole, says it’s gay, less masculine, to be with us.

So shut it down. Shut down every person or conversation that claims trans women are “really” men, every media depiction with men playing us.

If y’all have other ideas, I’d love to hear them. I’ve seen endless “stop trans murders” posts but no suggestions as to how, or any accountability.

allthingslinguistic:

ms-robot:

themightyif:

magess:

dontgiveupjulia:

gothhabiba:

useless-swedenfacts:

my biggest pet peeve wiht the english language is that you don’t have sin/sina

in swedish if u have two people who use the same pronoun u can always tell whos doing what bc its like ‘han tog sin väska’ (he took his[own] bag) and ‘han tog hans väska’ would be that he took the other persons bag

but in english its like if u have 2 ppl w/ the same pronoun:

“she took her bag” whose bag????WHose BAG was it her OWN bag or the other her’s bag??????????????

“he ate his donuts” were the donuts his own???? did he fucking eat someone elses donuts??? YIU DONT KNOW bc english is a bullshit language 

also known as, the gay fanfiction dilemma

We have the same problem in portuguese

That’s very cool. I want this -own pronoun.

The obscurity mentioned in the OP doesn’t exist, though. If it’s unclear what antecedent a pronoun refers to, it’s an error. It’s an error that happens a lot, for sure, but it’s improper English grammar when it happens. There’s a page on this here.

In most cases, it’s pretty clear, though. In the above, without any other framing to confuse the situation, the donuts are his own and the bag is her own. The pronoun must refer back to an antecedent, and “he” and “she” in each example are the only available antecedents.

(That’s not to say that sin/sana might not allow more flexible sentence structure. It’s just that unclear antecedents should not be a thing in properly constructed English.) 

You *could* clarify by using “own”. Like, “She took her own bag.” It would sound awkward because it’s grammatically unnecessary, but it would clarify the situation if it *was* something where you were finding it confusing.

I’m under the impression that this is not “improper” grammar. If you mean improper in a prescriptivist way, then yeah, this seems like one of the more useful arbitrary rules I’ve seen. But I certainly don’t register anything as ungrammatical in the above sentence.

@allthingslinguistic care to share anything?

Yeah, this is a prescriptivist error. Unlike many prescriptivist errors, this is probably actually good writing advice (you generally don’t want to confuse people!), but there’s nothing GRAMMATICALLY wrong with being unclear. 

In fact, constructions like this are used in some areas of linguistics to demonstrate several interesting things about pronouns. For example: 

Every girl loves her mother. –> “her” can refer to every girl’s own mother, or to some specific other female person’s mother, it’s ambiguous.

Her mother loves every girl –> “her” can only refer to some specific other female person’s mother, not every girl’s own mother. 

Every girl is loved by her mother –> “her” can refer to every girl’s own mother, or to some specific other female person’s mother, it’s ambiguous.

Her mother is loved by every girl –> Her mother loves every girl –> “her” can only refer to some specific other female person’s mother, not every girl’s own mother. 

I’m not going to recap all of Binding Theory here, but here’s a link to it on Wikipedia and if nothing else, you’ll notice that there are tons of examples of ambiguous pronouns! 

Even more interestingly though, this puts us onto looking at how other languages solve the gay fanfiction problem.  

For example, in French,* third singular possessive pronouns don’t make any distinctions for the gender of the person they refer to (i.e. “her book” and “his book” is both “son livre”).  

You’d think this would make French fanfiction confusing regardless of the gender pairing, but in fact body parts are customarily referred to with the reflexive/indirect object pronoun + definite article, so rather than “elle prend la main” (she takes her/his hand) you get “elle se prend la main” (literally, she takes the hand to herself; idiomatically, she takes her own hand) versus “elle lui prend la main” (literally, she takes the hand to him/her; idiomatically, she takes [other person’s] hand). 

I don’t think you can do this with things that aren’t body parts though, so something like “elle se prend le livre” is not a good French sentence – you’d have to say the ambiguous “elle prend son livre” (she takes his/her book). So French is doing okay at M-rated gay fic but Swedish is still winning at Gen fic. 

*I think most of this (maybe all?) is true for other Romance languages as well, but French is the one I speak best. 

HOWEVER, languages that have logophors give Swedish a run for its money. Here’s Ewe for example, shamelessly cribbed from Wikipedia since I don’t speak any languages with logophors: 

Kofi be  -dzo
say LOG-leave
‘Kofii said that hei left.’    

Kofi be  e-dzo
say pro-leave
‘Kofii said that he/shej left.’

As we can see, “Kofi said that ye left” means that Kofi himself (i.e. whoever the speaker is) left, whereas “Kofi said that e left” means that someone who is not Kofi/the speaker left. Logophors refer to a type of pronoun that is only used to refer to someone who is the same as the speaker. 

So Ewe does not solve the gay fanfiction “he took his hand” problem as far as I can tell, but it does beat Swedish at the perhaps even more important “he said that he loved him, but the only thing was…he didn’t love him back” angsty gay fanfiction problem. 

sapphicaspiewitch:

if u ever worry about your future as a wlw please know that my mother who just turned 40 and her girlfriend who started transitioning at 39 (who are both divorced and had children w/other ppl) are currently singing duets in our kitchen while my stepmum plays acoustic guiter and they’re beautiful and happy and there is always hope for you